Basic Etiquette tips for people new to FFXIV (or MMOs in general)

[AmyNeudaiz]

@AmyNeudaiz Is there any way to convince your dear friend to return? I would be more than happy to party with the lass. I am saddened that others were not understanding. Even if someone is fully mobile, we as human beings have no need of harsh words and even harsher actions. What good does being a meanie-face-y do for anyone (of course, we all will be mean at some point or another, but we all must forgive ourselves at some point, too)? It is important that we welcome all kinds and have patience for all sorts. If one does not have the time to be polite, how does one have the time to play a game? I am looking forward to seeing more helpful advice in the coming days from other posters, too!

I've been trying to get her back, she's pretty interested in 2.0 to say the least. Hopefully this time around I'll be around better company while playing so she won't feel like she's bringing the team down. Thanks for your concern though.

[Raza]

etiquette = common sense

[Mikita]

Very nice guide and I hope more people read it and take it to heart.

If I may suggest 2 possible inclusions...

Under "Party Play" -> "Get familiar with the content."
Perhaps to be mindful that there can be different ways of going through a dungeon or fight. Communicating the plan can help to head off any problems, instead of assuming everyone will know and follow the same strategy. This is potentially more apparent if you play with mixed English-Japanese groups -- strategies can differ significantly.

And it is largely covered by the "Basic Etiquette" tips "Keep it positive" and "Be respectful" but...
Don't yell at other people. Most people are trying their best, not everyone is a pro gamer, we all make mistakes and sometimes make poor choices under the stress of battle. If you lose your temper and berate other people for their mistakes, it could have a negative impact on your reputation and cause people to avoid helping you in the future.
(or is this one too negative?)

[HiirNoivl]

Well, no it's not too negative. I want to stick with the beginning. The Beginning of FFXIV is very linear and straight foward, but people will get tired after a while of telling others not to kill the bomb for the "Icherous Ire" ore to not stand in the purple "Thunderclap Guivre" water.

So that's what I mean. Get familiar just means understanding the basics, like maps.

Yes, yelling is never good. There's a kind way to end a party. If you can't say anything without losing it just... "Thank you for pt!" and then go scream into your pillow. lol

[MithrasInvictus]

I will have to disagree with you. When someone has a lot of physical strength, holding someone upside down and shaking them for their lunch money is easily identifiable bullying. However, you'll see kids try to do the same thing to their parents when they don't get the answer they want.

"Come on! This party means everything!" (Unspoken threat: You, the parent, don't want my life to be devoid of meaning do you?) "If you don't let me go to the mall, I'll hate you forever!" (Spoken threat.) "Waaaah! *burst into tears* *slam the door* YOU'RE the WORST PARENT EVER." (Guilt tripping).

On the Internet, people cannot hold a gun to your head and make you do anything, so you'll see people try to bully others with the same tactic. "If the devs don't do this thing I want, I'm going to quit!"

It is bullying. Once someone says no, that needs to be respected.

I don't see how someone's size has any relevance to a video game, and if you can provide a single example of someone picking someone up and shaking them down THROUGH THE INTERNET, I applaud your sleuthing abilities! Regardless, someone acting like a whiny brat with an inflated sense of entitlement still doesn't strike me as bullying. It strikes me as someone who is acting like a whiny brat with an inflated sense of entitlement. We'll just have to agree to disagree here. The whiny, bratty people out there are the reason that black lists exist. I don't like playing with them either, because they're aggravating.

[-Eri-]

Great Guide^^;
I really hope more ppl act like they're actually trying be friendly.
This could really help those ppl that have the 'No Time to chat Attitude',
However i hope they have Time to read.

I've been trying to get her back, she's pretty interested in 2.0 to say the least. Hopefully this time around I'll be around better company while playing so she won't feel like she's bringing the team down. Thanks for your concern though.

Hi^^;
Given we are on the same server i would be happy to have more People to play with ^_^
If timezones allow... i'd be the last person to turn down a Group.
Wouldn't mind to get a /tell sometime^^

[TenraiNagi]

Thank you Hiir for the guide! It really should be published

I personally never met any rude people in 1.0 or in the beta (and hopefully I never do ^^), but I would REALLY REALLY appreciate it if people say anything in parties (set up by the duty finder mainly). I had parties where the 30-40 min dungeon run was so enjoyable because we were all communicating and it made the content much more fun.

I understand that some might be in a bad mood or any other thing that they are going through, but a simple {Hello} can go a long way. And maybe we can even lift your spirit?

[HiirNoivl]

My younger brother has just now started playing.

When doing Toto Rak, our humorous back and forth really made the runs fun... Like when he got a drop I would act annoyed with him. "You punk!" He would say, "I'm a greedy"

Or if he got frozen by the Ziz from the Duty Finder I would /laugh repeatedly. He would say "Shut it"

As soon has he come into the Toto-Rak dungeon he would say "TOTOCRACK!" in party chat.

I lol'ed every time.

Of course being goofy is not a way you have to go about it, but please say something. XD Dungeons don't have to be "Punch-in, Punch-out" Make Duty Finder fun!