Also, who cares what is on the other side of the screen? Would you not talk to someone if you found out they were ugly or disfigured outside of the game?
There's a world of a difference between chatting with someone vs. ERPing with someone. The whole point of ERP is to approximate sexual gratification. I don't even know how this could even be debatable.

First thing, they are having fun or they wouldn't be doing it now would they?
You don't understand the hertero cis-male pyche. You really think those hetero cis men are fully and genuinely enjoying themselves when they ERP with a person they know deep down inside is another man? Cmon...