My issue has been more with the "pseudo disbands" in the party finder. A single failed pull and people start leaving, the group dissolves, only to reform with the majority of the same people but while wasting anywhere from 5-45 minutes reorganizing.

We are incapable of having a mature discussion about why the pull failed, was it bad luck? carelessness? bad snapshot? someone just has no idea what they're doing?
Is this because we're being afraid of being reported for "toxicity"? One player will just scream "YoU dOnT pAy My SuB!!!" It does feel like everyone is so overly sensitive that it's almost easier to leave and say nothing at all then try to talk out what may have went wrong.

The raid finder would at least stop people from leaving after a single attempt, lest they eat the 30 minute penalty, and if they did or we'd need replace one bad player that was vote kicked with in progress queues and not waste hours reorganizing.

I know its pollyannaish of me but I just wish people had a little more patience in this large scale battles