Friend endlessly stalked and harassed by another player on many characters

[Rueby]

Have you tried being direct and just telling them that you don't want anything to do with them? Some people may take a kind rejection as playing hard to get. It's important to be clear where your boundaries are even if it means having to be a bit rude.

You assume these people are mentally well enough to ACCEPT that you have boundaries and RESPECT them. No one who accepts/respects anyone's boundaries would resort to stalking.

I got stalked by a guy who couldn't comprehend the fact that I have no interest in relationships or being romanticly involved with ANYONE. Confronting him and setting my boundaries aggrevated him and if anything it made it all worse, he left me no option but to block him after which he made dozens of accounts to try and talk to me, first pretending to be someone else. (because anything other than me being his gf was unacceptable and he was already acting as if I'm his gf and he'd get angry if I didn't respond) Then he went after my friends, so it wasn't just me being stalked, but also my friends and unfortunately we had mutuals. I had to leave the game I played together with my friends because he'd spam my ingame mail and would make chars to follow me around and try to get my attention.

He started resorting to telling my friends he's going to game end himself if I didn't respond and that I ruined his life (?) because I was the love of his life...(and I only knew him for a month..) and he kept at it for 4 years with varying levels of 'intensity'. Nonetheless, the experience wasn't nice, I felt immense guilt and kept trying to think if I could've done something better, if perhaps I deserved this but the reality is: No one deserves this. Being nice/friendly to someone isn't the open door to being stalked. Having boundaries or even preferences isn't the greenlight to being stalked.

Reality is, there's alot of desperate/lonely people who are on the unhinged spectrum and don't take a no for an answer. Polite, rude, doesn't matter. Someone well adjusted will be able to handle rejection and it is what it is, perhaps there's better luck out there.

That aside, I've always wondered if somehow there's something I can improve on myself to lessen the risk of it, and it makes sense that the insecure/desperate/lonely types are attracted to nice/kind people rather than someone who is unfriendly/aggressive. I wish I could be like that, but I don't want to be someone I'm not just because someone else is having problems. I try my best to provide closure to people and communicate clearly if there's something that makes me uncomfortable.