
Originally Posted by
Merrigan
This. If there's one thing I find a little distasteful in the ERP community (or, to be more accurate: among those who are ardent advocates of it), it's that the general RP community has always heavily, very heavily insisted on showing respect for the other player. I've never RP'd on JVs, but I do within Dnd5, and the rules are the same:
- In the case of "particular" RP (torture, for example; and of course, romance and sex), it's imperative to ask if the other player is OK with this type of theme.
- The overriding rule is to have fun. If the other player is no longer having fun, we stop. Immediately.
However, in the case cited by the OP, these rules are not respected. Which also answers AlexiaD's post: the problem isn't that you're having fun via ERP, but that you're sometimes doing so outside acceptable limits. Here, by making sure of two things before interacting with the player: that he agrees with the principle of the RP, and that he agrees with the approach to sexual themes. I've already met a player who wanted to do ERP with my character; something which, personally, bothers me. He didn't ask beforehand if I was ok with the principle, insisted during the play session even though I'd told him it wasn't my thing => the DM kicked him out of the group the very next session.