I don't think that you understood my point. I did not mean the sundering kills someone in the conventional sense of the word, more like kills who they are as a person (hence the question of "what makes a person a person?"), and not just in regards to only memories, but in regards to their experiences, their relationships with their loved ones, their ways and views of the world, what languages they spoke and what culture they practiced, the things that make a person a person, which is way more than just memories.
It's hard to argue for something I never said. I never said the sundered are lesser or that I liked the ascians or Garlemald's actions. I don't have any grudges against Venat or any other character. In fact, I think she's another victim of the flawed narrative, and deserved way better.
About the ascians, Venat deliberately let Emet-Selch escape knowing what he will do (presumably because WoL needs the rejoinings to be strong enough? we weren't given any clarification about her intent), making her complicit in his and the ascian's crimes. But that is beside the point that I what making. Characters, ascians or Venat or any other, are merely puppets to the narrative of the story, which is what I was targeting. The problem isn't Venat, it's the writing and narrative as a whole.
And on the topic of it not being genocide, the term itself holds more meaning than just killing people. Preventing people from practicing their culture causing its death for example, is a form of genocide. Preventing them from speaking their language and letting it die is a form of genocide, preventing them from determining their fate and future is a form of genocide too.
I don't think I will argue further, it's disheartening to see what I say misinterpreted and me being treated as someone who agrees with ascians when I said nothing about that, or how "mute and dyslexic people are people" when I never hinted otherwise. I'm a disabled person myself, and have life-long conditions that affect my ability to function. Frankly, that hurt so much to read.