Let's see

- My first FC was called Quiet Storm, and their recruitment announcement is still around, but if I remember correctly, they just dissolved into aether like Aerith. That was almost ten years ago.
- My second FC was called Onslaught, and I THINK they're still around? Maybe not though.. but that was one of those that had 30ish active people and then they just faded away into their own thing. I have good memories with them.
- My third FC is a small (though mostly inactive) FC with 6 other people. None of them is active anymore, but the FC technically still exists. I stopped playing my Lalafell at this point.

- My fourth FC was called Hokuten. About 200ish people? Pretty active actually, but then one day the leader logs in, passes lead rights to someone random and LEAVES without a word. Everything blew up, with half the FC wanting to stay and the other half leaving, taking gil from the chest and house furnishings.
- My fifth FC was called Soldier, and I was there only because a friend. Somewhat big, but we ended up leaving.
- My sixth FC was called... I actually don't remember, but it was one of those with 200 members and only about two or three of us barely logging in. I left because nothing ever happened and I barely knew anyone.
- My seventh FC was called Guard, and I joined with my RL sister. It was about the size of Hokuten, or maybe a bit smaller? There were some good people there I still talk to, but then management made a bunch of mistakes, and we left. The FC seemingly later split and I don't think the original one exists anymore.

- My eight and current FC is called Greywing Initiative, and my sister and I made it. We're about 15 people, as we only ever invited personal friends, and we just celebrated two years back in April. Best FC I've been in! Because it's our FC and because it's my sister and I running it, I don't think I'll be leaving this one.

FC hunting is bound to be a ride. I hope you can eventually find the group that just right for you, because I get what you're saying.