Never start a thread with "ive played XI" this is not XI, and people wont read your thread because of it mostly.

On topic:
If you arent enjoying it, why do you play? I enjoy every minute, when i do DH i go with my LS or random people. the point is, i play it my own way. I play as Bard mysellf, noone has EVER forced me to play something else, yeah, i see people that only wants black mages etc on ifrit, not understanding i have mp regen for them, but so what? thats not a party you want anyways, since its not your way of playing, right? Your problem isnt that you cant have it your way. Your problem is that youre rushing things. And if i remember right, you had to wait 6 hours just to get a party in xi, so yeah, you arent pacient at all.