ADHD & Healing as SCH - Need tips on how to improve

[Padudu]

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That is true and that is something I get told a lot by my mates lol. I checked my ping last night and that's completely fine, I've got good net and no frames/lag issues unless my internet randomly decides to drop, but that's about once in a blue moon. I'll have to look more into what slidecasting is and try to commit to practicing timing with the AOEs. It is true that it can be a little scary, that's for sure. I think I may be panicking a little when I'm midcast when AoEs begin to pop, so I'll have to try to calm that aspect down a bit. Thank you!

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First, thanks! It's slow going but I do want to make sure I can pull my weight in party situations. I want to be able to feel like I've contributed to a party and not just be dead weight. That's my major goal out of anything, other than improving of course.


1) I, admittedly, suffer from a lot of anxiety when I've messed up a mechanic or die. It's very, very hard for me to recover from that. I don't want to say it's like.. being dramatic or something, but I think it's as if someone just uncorked a champagne and the pressure just pops. I get so caught up in trying to keep up that it can be a little hard for me to realize that I am actually not doing anything at all in that moment. I do overthink what I'm doing a lot too. I'll try my best to focus on relaxing a bit and get into the habit of pressing Broil/Ruin 2 when I can. I think especially if I got into the habit of pressing Ruin 2 and keeping it rolling, I can ease into doing it naturally with Broil and other GCDs.

2) I think I will have to look into clipping exactly and making sure I don't do it, same token of slidecasting, I need to properly learn what it is. I'll try moving the HP bars as suggested and keeping the heal spam to a minimum and kick the habit of using oGCDs as a crutch and rather just think of it as trying to keep a steady flow of Broil/Ruin 2 and 1 oGCD.

3) OK - I had no idea. Thank you! I think I tend to panic and just slap on the shield since sometimes, in that moment, I cannot gauge what would be enough or not. I'll try letting Succor go and just experimenting with the survivability; I think that would give me a better idea than just slapping on succor every cast.

And yep, you nailed it, it eases the panicking a little but I guess I have to work through that and just feel comfortable with not using it as a crutch. I'll see if I can work on just taking a deep breath, relaxing, and minimizing GCD heals while focusing on weaving in broil/ruin 2 with oGCDs more effectively.

Over all, thank you so much for the advice. I really appreciate it and hope I can kick off some of those bad habits and form some good ones. You've given me a lot to mull over and think about and now it's just a matter of one step at a time, relax myself, and just note the things I've done right and wrong to the best of my ability. What would you suggest other than PF? I do go with a friend/FCs at times. Friend also suggested I start with extremes (eden, ect where I'd have to do mechs)/unreal.

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Hey, thanks for your kind words.

Also -- thank you. That does mean a lot to point out that I am improving, if only a little. Sometimes I can be really hard on myself and it does make me happy to know that other people can see some improvement in me, even if I can't myself at times. Of course there's a long road of practice ahead of me, but I'm glad to know I'm completely hopeless at learning how to heal.

Overall - thank you everyone for advice and support. I'll be trying to take everything one step at a time and hopefully I can update y'all when I've improved significantly!