I have at no point ever suggested that both sides in a conflict cannot do everything possible in order to survive and protect their loved ones, though. In fact, that's exactly why I was so satisfied with how the final confrontation in Shadowbringers played out. Which, I believe, I have pointed out many times across the relevant threads.

I must confess, I'm not sure where you're getting the impression that I'm suggesting that people should not defend themselves in a fight regardless of whether they are on the offense or defensive in a territorial dispute...?