Dark Knights are an absolute joke and I'm tired of pretending they're not

[Ayche]

How can I not hold a massive grudge after what I've been putting up with?

Because in the long run holding a grudge just makes you miserable. Increased stress levels, fixation on negative outlooks, etc.
Like life is full of disappointments, be it just having a FFXIV job you like being changed to something you don't like, getting your bicycle stolen, get injured by an accident, yeah sometimes things suck.
But it is better to move on from it than getting stuck on this loop that "if I am angry about it long enough, eventually things will change." That is not it shakes up majority of the time.
The big DRK thread had all these posts that "Next patch! Next patch will surely finally have major DRK changes!", people whipping themselves into a frenzy with NOTHING really to back up that energy. And when nothing happens, that just fuels more negativity.

[shao32]

Because in the long run holding a grudge just makes you miserable. Increased stress levels, fixation on negative outlooks, etc.
Like life is full of disappointments, be it just having a FFXIV job you like being changed to something you don't like, getting your bicycle stolen, get injured by an accident, yeah sometimes things suck.
But it is better to move on from it than getting stuck on this loop that "if I am angry about it long enough, eventually things will change." That is not it shakes up majority of the time.
The big DRK thread had all these posts that "Next patch! Next patch will surely finally have major DRK changes!", people whipping themselves into a frenzy with NOTHING really to back up that energy. And when nothing happens, that just fuels more negativity.

Many ppl including me get so atached to original DRK it's really hard to let it go specially when we can fight to bring it back/for make it better and success like many others did with they respective jobs.
Im holding with Reaper better that i hold with GNB in SHB but i still want DRK to come back, i want the devs listen us and make changes in concordance of what we are asking for, we basically ask for the same level of care and love the rest of the other jobs gets. It's not as simple as move on, some have invested so much on the game and ppl wanna get what they lost as long is possible to get it back unless is an irreversible situation.