Heaven forfend people learn things and ruin your optimal DF runs for the day right?



Heaven forfend people learn things and ruin your optimal DF runs for the day right?
WHERE IS THIS KETTLE EVERYONE KEEPS INTRODUCING ME TO?



WHERE IS THIS KETTLE EVERYONE KEEPS INTRODUCING ME TO?



WHERE IS THIS KETTLE EVERYONE KEEPS INTRODUCING ME TO?
I don't go on a tirade, I just roll my eyes and complain in another channel about it if it's bad enough. I tend to not say anything unless they say something first, because asking someone to watch what they stand in tends to get people pissed off. For some reason. -_-
I tend to get the most... bad people in my groups, so I do roulettes with a group. And not just bad in performance, bad in attitude either in addition, or in replacement. It's not all the time, but I get them often enough that I don't like running content with randos.



All of which is fair. And hopefully you also don't come onto the forums and demand people learn everything before getting in an instance. I won't ever go so far as to say everyone is receptive and wonderful. There's cruddy people in this game just like any other and the influx of players has made it more common to encounter them just through sheer numbers.I don't go on a tirade, I just roll my eyes and complain in another channel about it if it's bad enough. I tend to not say anything unless they say something first, because asking someone to watch what they stand in tends to get people pissed off. For some reason. -_-
I tend to get the most... bad people in my groups, so I do roulettes with a group. And not just bad in performance, bad in attitude either in addition, or in replacement. It's not all the time, but I get them often enough that I don't like running content with randos.
not said directly but this example given basically says a huge increase in players without increasing the "good" players. By extrapolation that means ONLY increasing the bad players:
I said :You also said that its in your own personal experience that people become unnecessarily rude while in the same post, claiming you do not assume.
Which is it? You make a lot of opposing statements. I’m going to bed while you sort out what your saying, instead of conflicting things you’ve previously said when it suits your agenda. Night
in response to:but it's been my experience that immediately after someone calls out "coddling" players they start to talk about how people attack them for criticizing those players in a harsh manner and/or immediately start to level unnecessarily rude or derogatory criticism demonstrating my point that they don't actually have a problem with other players needing to learn, but being mad they cannot denigrate or shame people into learning.
Just because someone calls out the coddling of players doesn’t mean they want to “yell” at players who may be learning or not grasping something. But that’s the problem with the “they are doing fine” community. You assume any criticism is an attack instead of taking it as advice or clarification, or anything at face value.
and then:
in response to :I don't assume people are mad, I notice that the people who GET mad are the ones teaching in said "Blunt" or "matter of fact" methods. You don't need to sugar coat things, but you should probably use tact when dealing with unknown randoms. If you think bare minimum tact is unnecessary "inflation" then you're probably exactly who I am talking about.
Again you go on about yelling and shaming. Not all criticism is yelling and shaming. Sometimes it’s blunt, but not everything has to be prettied up. In fact, I find the meaning and purpose get lost in translation when you inflate it with everything else. But you do you. Assume everyone’s just mad. Don’t allow advice to get passed along just because it’s not sugar coated, even if it’s not an attack.
The first says it reinforces the perception that they're mad they can't use their preferred derogatory tactics since they express frustration through FURTHER denigration.
The 2nd says I don't assume EVERYONE is just mad I observe the people who say things in "unsugared" ways are the ones who are quickest to GET PERCEPTIBLY MAD.
I don't see how you can think one relates to the other. Seeing people get mad, does not mean I assumed anything. None of that is opposing.
Last edited by Krotoan; 01-04-2022 at 05:13 PM.
WHERE IS THIS KETTLE EVERYONE KEEPS INTRODUCING ME TO?
I can say you come off angrier than a person simply being blunt. Your posts are argumentative. Your posts even come off as talking down to someone who disagrees with you. I don’t believe you have the solution when you yourself are struggling to communicate. But then, we are currently living in a generation that equates periods at the end of a sentence online to anger
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