For me, rather than giving me the "All nice and caring spiel" tell me straight to the point what I did wrong. I dont need it to be nicely dressed, get to the point, be it with insults or without. Unlike half of the player base, I have thick skin, Call me what you want as long as it gets the point across, and I'm not so sensitive that I will report you for doing so. Saves me, you and the others time.