If you have the expectation that people want to communicate with you or not prioritise exp in exp roulettes that is a you problem not a rush mentality.

Now if your doing your best and your pulling as much as you think your party can handle and someone isn't happy with that, that's there problem.

Also there is a difference between backseat gaming and advice or suggestions and because tank is the most visible role you'll get back seat gamed more than any other role. My advice is ignore it and if they want to pull and do your job it's only fair you let them tank to.