Need help / advice for this tank roulette situation

[FrogDog]

There's no excuse for the healer to be a jerk about it either. I can see from the chat log that they said literally nothing - not even "hi" - before going on to pull the second group. How about starting with "Could we do big pulls?" and when the tank tells they're not comfortable offer an "Could we try one anyway? I know I can heal it."

I didn't think it was worth mentioning that I tabbed out while I waited for everyone to accept the queue pop and when I tabbed back in the tank was already moving forward so my immediate action was to sprint and catch up. That said, sometimes I greet, sometimes I don't. I typically don't say anything in a group unless I see something in somebody's search info that's interesting, I like their glam, etc. - things of that nature. I'm kind of jaded to the whole greeting random people I'll likely never see again thing. It's reflexive to most people and it means nothing to them so I don't put much stock in somebody going "o/" or "meowdy" making them a nicer person than me.

Again, while the other people ended up siding with the tank they were right there with me running towards the 2nd pull. If one of them had hit an enemy on purpose or on accident I would have healed them because that's my role and the enemies would be attacking me and the tank wouldn't be helping because she's trying to prove a point. She couldn't even see who hit the second group anyway come to think of it, since she was around that first corner.

This kind of thing usually doesn't happen anyway since in most 80 content tanks won't pretend they're in a leveling roulette.

[tdb]

So not saying hi is being a jerk? Yes he went on to pull the second group because it should be common knowledge and expected that a tank pulls more than one group. The point is in the literal last dungeon of the expansion, people shouldn’t have to ask to do big pulls, it should be the norm.

I didn't think it was worth mentioning that I tabbed out while I waited for everyone to accept the queue pop and when I tabbed back in the tank was already moving forward so my immediate action was to sprint and catch up. That said, sometimes I greet, sometimes I don't. I typically don't say anything in a group unless I see something in somebody's search info that's interesting, I like their glam, etc. - things of that nature. I'm kind of jaded to the whole greeting random people I'll likely never see again thing. It's reflexive to most people and it means nothing to them so I don't put much stock in somebody going "o/" or "meowdy" making them a nicer person than me.

The lack of a greeting is beside the point. I only mentioned it to highlight the apparent fact that you made no effort to communicate your wishes to the group before trying to force them to play your way. If pulling the second group occurred by accident in the chaos of starting the dungeon, then fair enough, it happens. But don't you think you could have tried to kindly coax the tank to try big pulls rather than berate them for being bad? Yes, I know big pulls are the norm and the dungeons are designed that way, but sometimes you encounter people who have managed to lead sheltered lives up until now. What do you stand to lose by at least trying to get along with others?