This exclusivity as far as i know is a common thing in asian mmos and thus i can understand their design choices when it comes to housing. It's about showing off that you have something, thus also no "instanced" housing but wards where other players can see your plot and house and can also visit it.

So yeah i am totally fine with the housing situation, it's work and when you got it you can show off and enjoy it. Same as raiding. Same as other competetive content. The only reason we hear so much negative stuff from the community about it is cause most of these players are casual and want all the stuff without any work.

So yeah, if you want something then just suffer for it. If you want the feast gear, suffer through pvp. If you want the ultimate titel and weapons, suffer through all the practice it takes. And if you want a house, stand in front of it and click for hours until you get it. Just takes time like the rest, if you don't like that you don't deserve it in my opinion.