It seems to me like you only view consequence to be a negative thing. Like I said, Alphinaud's story arc is about consequence. Just because he didn't die or get injured, it doesn't mean there was no consequence. And being a continuous story, it can be more appropriate to represent those consequences with the lesser/temporary characters. So you have physical consequence with Arenvalt (don't know spelling), consequence of separation with Lyna and Ryne separating from the Exarch and Thancred respectively. And yes, you do have death with Alisae's friend.
I disagree. It may be a game, but you are talking to and about real people unless you are constantly in RP mode. The game is just a medium where the chat box happens to be. It's why social interactions are not regulated by the game rating, because those interactions are not actually part of the game, though they are connected.
And yes, trash talk is trash talk, but it has its context. You don't just trash talk everywhere, and PvE should not be about competition.
Except I don't think that's the case at all. So, to me, it's more like people are setting up "strawmans" most of the time. "Can do no wrong" and "perfect" are not words I usually see with respect to this community except when used by people who are criticizing the community.