Pronouns???

[Nothv13]

But they are. Even outside of LGBTQ+ circles people do purposefully use incorrect pronouns to hurt someone. I'm cis and straight, and grew up around people who are cis and straight, and when I was a child some of those people sometimes referred to me as "he" just because I liked doing some stuff that was traditionally for boys. I wasn't even a tomboy, I still liked many girly things. But I also liked toys and cartoons that were aimed at boys. Some people thought I shouldn't be engaging in both and would refer to me as "he" with the intention of shaming me.

I knew nothing about LGBTQ+ at that age, there was no social movement regarding pronouns at the time...and it still hurt me when I was referred to as if I was a boy when I knew myself to be a girl. Intentional incorrect use of pronouns was a tool used to bully me. Incorrect pronouns being directed at someone isn't something that can only begin when someone who is LGBTQ+ is involved. I have seen cis and straight adults do this to one another when a person deems someone to be acting inappropriately for their gender.

What I went through is not comparable to someone trans being referred to as the gender they don't identify with given I did not ever suffer from body or gender related dysphoria, but I still do understand that it's hurtful when people use pronouns that you don't feel match who you are because that has happened to me. It sucks to say the least.

I'm very fortunate that period of my life didn't last for very long. If only every trans and non-binary person could say the same.

I grew up the same. You know what stopped it? Me no longer caring. Suddenly it no longer hurt me and the people doing it stopped as I no longer gave them what they wanted. You decide if words hurt you or not.

[lezard21]

I grew up the same. You know what stopped it? Me no longer caring. Suddenly it no longer hurt me and the people doing it stopped as I no longer gave them what they wanted. You decide if words hurt you or not.

There is even a South Park episode about this. When South Park is more mature than some adults then you need to start worrying.

[Penthea]

I grew up the same. You know what stopped it? Me no longer caring. Suddenly it no longer hurt me and the people doing it stopped as I no longer gave them what they wanted. You decide if words hurt you or not.

...I was seven years old. You really expect someone that young to have the presence of mind to come to those conclusions?

As for how it stopped I can only guess it's because it didn't make me stop playing with "boy's" toys so they got bored of trying to insult me.

[Nothv13]

...I was seven years old. You really expect someone that young to have the presence of mind to come to those conclusions?

As for how it stopped I can only guess it's because it didn't make me stop playing with "boy's" toys so they got bored of trying to insult me.

Yeah? I never said it was easy. It took me into my last year of high school. The issue is that adults are still acting like the 7 year old you without the maturity to not let things get to them.

[Penthea]

Yeah? I never said it was easy. It took me into my last year of high school. The issue is that adults are still acting like the 7 year old you without the maturity to not let things get to them.

Well for me it really was in early childhood and it was mostly other kids in the neighbourhood who were saying it to me, though they probably learned that behaviour from their parents. When I encountered adults with the same behaviour I was already in my teens and by then I was just like "whatever I do what I want".