RP Party finders being reported AGAIN without so much as a reason.

[Saefinn]

Those that do congregate in places where typically such things are to be expected. If you enter a nightclub you will be asked for your ID card. The right answer would be they should fully well know the age of the opposite person they're flirting with. People that disregard that are careless and the law does not care if you are oblivious to this fact. Everyone is responsible to make sure that doesn't happen and that involves critical thinking. However this is in the confines of the real world and generally speaking it doesn't happen often.

Agreed and the law will hold you responsible and really I think we should normalize the idea of that responsibility. I just don't think it's any different between the two scenarios and people shouldn't be prevented in engaging in either activity because of that risk. Whilst people may pick each other up at nightclubs, I drank at a bar aged 17, I went to my first music festival at 16, I have been to gigs before that and you could meet people in all kinds of places where people aren't age restricted and people can get around age restrictions.

ERP means Erotic Roleplay. Romance doesn't necessarily equate sex, that should be obvious. When I hear most people talk about it, it's precisely what you imagine it is. Say it for what it is. It's sexual in nature and often involves an excess use of particular words or actions, basically what you would expect.

No, romance doesn't necessarily mean that, but it can lead to it. And people who write characters and people who roleplay can handle that in a multitude of ways. You can have the "fade-to-black" scenario or you can choose to not shy away from the detail. But if they choose to engage in the detail, then what they are doing is ERPing. This a more innocent use of it, because it's the natural progression of two characters and both parties choose to engage in the erotic detail. This is my point about it being a very broad term. This is a scenario that sometimes happens.

Because that's what it is. Logically speaking, people that get "close" are more likely to have cybersex when the threshold has been achieved. I don't know about you, but when I used to flirt with my ex things happened afterwards, it's natural. So I assume biological imperatives do follow the same rules even in a digital space.

All in all, as I have said, if legally consenting adults are doing these things in private, it is not my problem. But do it openly and don't expect people won't report that. I'd just swallow my pride and accept some things are for the best. For all of us.

Oh I accept that's why. I just mean, there are people who'd rather differentiate between the two, because there is the idea of "self insert" when it comes to RP. It goes back to my point about some people being interested in erotica, it's more the erotica and they have a divide between the writer and the character rather than self inserting themselves into a virtual sexual situation, which is what cybersex is.

Whether or not it is explicitly against the Terms of Service is wholly irrelevant, when you accepted those terms, you also agreed to the following:

And nothing about that even suggests they will moderate you for engaging in ERP. This if anything is a legal clause to protect themselves for using their own discretion. It basically means you have no legal leg to stand on if you get banned or they do something to your account. If anything, if they have this clause, their ToS doesn't /have/ to be so vague.

I think it is time people did 1+1 and realized that the people enforcing these terms do not think it is appropriate behavior to be advertising mature content in a public space, such as Party Finder that is accessible on a whim for non-mature audiences.

And I think what would help would be a statement that clarifies this. Because it's only clear now that we can see that a group of ERP advertisements have been targeted and we can see that by the numerous threads that keep popping up and it's always the same type of venue. The GM's won't tell people what they did wrong, they just have to figure it out and it's not obvious when the ToS is as vague as it is. Even then it doesn't even suggest if ERP itself is a problem, because we're not hearing people getting strikes against their account for ERP, just the people advertising ERP venues.

Just better communication and clarification I think could go a long way.