Annoying DRG in Lost City of Amdapor kept running in front of me and pulling constantly.
As a Tank I have to make sure that the healer is keeping up and the healer wasn't, I pulled the three first groups just fine but after that the healer was very slow to react and if I tried to pull multiple groups the healer would be left far behind.
The DRG just kept running which killed me because I had to try and babysit and save the DRG, even solo pulling bosses.
This is why the Tank should pull... I am so tired of DPS minimizing this and blaming the Tank or accusing Tanks of having '' ego problems '' etc because they want to be the ones pulling...
The reason why I want to be the one pulling is because A, I am the one who's supposed to soak the damage and B, because as opposed to these people doing this I actually pay attention to other people in the party too especially the healer.
If I am not pulling at a certain speed there's a reason for that...
Trying to '' go fast '' like that just ends in a slower run too, even with a slow healer it's a lot faster if you just let the Tank make sure that the healer is there so you can do a bigger and more structured pulls rather than doing these smaller pulls where the healer has to run to catch up and then I am at low health and the slow healer freaks out and keeps spamming heals and doesn't notice if I try to pull another group.
It's a lot easier and faster if you just let me do the big pull instead of these mini stuttery pulls.
I know what buffs are I've played DRG, MNK and BLM in these dungeons... I am just so tired of this.
It's not the end of the world if you have to deal with dropping your buff every now and again in one dungeon, you're not going to die irl because of it so calm down.
If the healer keeps up I pull as fast and as much as I can without dying, but if the healer isn't the best then wtf am I supposed to do? Especially when everyone proceeds to stand in poison which just puts even more pressure on the healer who's already being pressured and not able to keep up.
And then when I say to let me pull I just get an attitude back and get told that I am the problem.
Like use your brains for five seconds plz and pay attention on the map.
It's just really annoying to me because I always go out of my way to be a teamplayer in games, if I am on my DRK you bet I am paying attention to who gets targeted by the boss and I'll shield you with Blackest Night etc.
But sometimes people just manage to make me feel like I shouldn't even bother because they seem to just play it like a singleplayer game.
Edit: I had a similar experience yesterday too, the healer was just spamming Cure 1 and I asked them to use stronger heals and the healer didn't listen or understand.
And then ofc I was the one who took all the blame for it when we couldn't handle gigantic pulls and one of the DPS just kept running ahead and pulling multiple groups then pointing fingers at me when we died and the healer was on like the other side of the map and arrived just to keep spamming Cure 1.
Like wtf am I supposed to do?
I've already pulled enough to where I am just barely able to stay alive then the DPS runs ahead and pulls two extra groups then points fingers at me.