Some games people don't listen. Some games the people shotcalling are making bad shotcalls. Sometimes people seem to get the idea enough and you don't need to say anything; most of the time I just have to call out objective times or warn of enemy pushes but that aside it's not so bad.

Anyway, that just sounds like some select bad experiences. We all get them sometimes. Don't think that's fair to say how it goes. In order for you to have lost, someone had to win, and while you can get lucky after over a hundred games you have to start to look inside to see about how you can improve. In general I think learning how to function with people who don't collaborate well is just kind of a life thing you have to learn. It's not fair but it's what you have to do to increase your likelihood of success.