The contempt for people with disabled people in this community really concerns me

[Pehrah]

The problem isnt people with disabilities its self. its people who either use it as a crutch when the arnt trying or people who dont actually care. as long as there is effort most people wont leave. there will always be those people who leave after one wipe but those arnt the majority.

[AngelCheese77]

The problem isnt people with disabilities its self. its people who either use it as a crutch when the arnt trying or people who dont actually care. as long as there is effort most people wont leave. there will always be those people who leave after one wipe but those arnt the majority.

I have to agree with this. I think we all have some "disability" be it physical, mental, or emotional. But it's all about learning your limits.

Now, I have yet to run into anyone in FF14 that has made fun of mine or my husband's issues. My husband is more open about things than I am, and more of an extrovert, so dunno if that makes a difference.

We play together in dungeons, so if I see him mess up an AoE (he has trouble focusing on multiple things, so can stand in them alot), I'm there to heal and Rescue him (I main WHM). We play off each other's strengths and weaknesses.

So after 6 pages, what I got from this thread so far is ...

1. Don't use your disability as an excuse.
2. Don't tell strangers about any disabilities you have.
3. There will be people who don't give a crap and call you "bad" or kick you (even those who don't have a disability).
4. Know your limits.
5. Surround yourself with people who understand you.
6. Go have fun.