Having issues making friends in-game. Am I missing something?

[MrKusakabe]

Don't worry, Mr. Reynholm. I know the feeling. The people I meet are awesome in the duties, some of the banter and chitchat was really borderline reportable, but since we all had fun, nothing happened of course. The hilarious nonsense I read during Castrum Runs gave me good times. And then I am loading back to Gridania and it's all gone.

This has nothing to do with you or me, it is just the nature of the game and the current gaming philosphy. People "nowadays" do not enjoy games anymore, they treat it is job. And because of that, they watch TV, talk on the phone, heck, they do not even bother connecting a keyboard to their PlayStations. Then there is the Duty Finder (bless it!) which makes it unnecessary to form local parties as it does the stuff for you and presents a "ready-to-rumble" group on a silver platter. And later there are "Trusts" (almost added a "h"...) which are NPCs to run dungeons with.

As you can see, both the game and the players have a very serious anti-social tendency. I do not like that at all, but with Duty Finder and NPC around, you won't find many people that focus on the game and the players but rather to their Netflix show inbetween waiting times. This does not change a lot on maximum level.

Making friends is difficult because of that. We simply do not need "those randoms you meet" when you get to play with randoms via Duty Finder at all; why engage in the first place? To be honest, it really hurts me in the stomach a lot. After my previous FC decided to cease to exist, I am looking out for talkative people. It has been 2 months and 29 days since that happened, but I do have problems to make friends with local people. It works in Duty Finder because there we have to engage with each other, and voila, there is the fun and good times!

But else, I am kind of maverick, which really hurts my Lalafellin heart in "those moments" when you see people doing stuff together and I pull a ticket like at the local work agency for a job like a peon in order to get into a dungeon with others....

EDIT: I used a German/English dictionary for "Tagelöhner" and got "Peon" as a result. Now I saw it has a very negative undertone with slavery. I did not intend that. A "Tagelöhner" (Tag = Day, Lohn = Wage) is a person that has very sporadic jobs, often just for that day ("den Tag") or a few hours. You go into a special office, a small waiting hall, and then you wait for a job which happens by the clerk handing out jobs that come in via phone, such as "We need a person for carrying boxes for 5 hours" or "We need help at cleaning up a festival site for the whole day".

So instead of playing with "my homies" and doing tasks with them like a worker with colleagues he knows, I am just a "Tagelöhner" that does that one particular job after pulling a number (Duty Finder waiting list) in the job agency (Duty Finder). And that is a terrible feeling and can get even grown men sad......

Sincerely,