Lalafell's Ruined (For Me) By a Couple People

[Melichoir]

Always min-height your Lalafell, or what's the point?
:P

To be a giant amongst my people!

I think min height is to small, so max height feels best for me haha. Its just over 3 feet I think...

[MrKusakabe]

I'm sorry but the only thought that crossed my mind reading this was this quote:
"My favorite Rapidash... It's... cute... lovely... smart... plus... amazing... you think so?... oh yes... it's... stunning... kindly... love it! Hug it... when... sleeping... warm and cuddly... spectacular... ravishing... ...Oops! Look at the time! I kept you too long! Thanks for hearing me out!"

Yeah, my Lalafell is perfect indeed

That's why I won't change ever. Which was a part of the question. I know in times of Facebook and small attention spans, taking longer or typing more to add emphasis for something is seen as strange, but hey, you can think of Pokémon quotes as much as you wish.

[Kacho_Nacho]

Lalafell have more in common with a traffic cone than a child imho

Beep! Beep!

[Bloodb]

I'm shy and always second guess everything I say. So my motto is not to speak.

Being lalafell let's me communicate with just lots of emotes!

[Galenini]

There use to be a guy here (on this forum) on a crusade, trying to get SE to delete lalafells and telling everyone who played the race that they were perverts. Some creepy people agreed with him, and even my ex-boyfriend made comments about it.

Meanwhile, I'm a 25 year old woman without any mental illnesses that just enjoys dressing up a chibi avatar (a potato with a head) in cute looking outfits. Back in the day I changed to miqo'te because of these men's disturbing claims; I didn't want to deal with being bullied by them anymore, and as someone who use to be a heavy forum-goer I experienced it almost on the daily. But just recently I returned to the game and missed the cuteness of a potato avatar and changed back to lalafell.

The issue is, ever since then I have had anxiety because of my experience of being bullied when playing the race. It's basically ruined the race for me... I've considered changing back, but I wanted to see if others have had similar experiences or if these creeps have cleared out from the forum.

I am so sorry you've had this experience.

Have not read through the entire thread, just wanted to point out a few things:

Yoshi-P plays a Lala. Publically. Live. During live talks. Go ahead folks, attack him for his choice without understanding modern Japanese culture.

Playing a Lalafell is almost (not entirely), almost a guarantee not to be harassed by ERP players on most of the servers on the Crystal Data Center. (Also, have not experienced any problems on most EU servers as well.)

FFXIV's ToS has a section on other players interfering with your enjoyment of the game. Being "bullied" in game regarding your choice of playable race is a violation and reportable. If you're in game, feel free to report if you've politely asked them to stop. If you don't want the hassle of navigating the report player system, you can at least put them on blacklist, walk away and not worry about them again.

If someone here, on the forum or in game is giving you grief about your choice of character, that says MORE about them, than you. They are not worth the time you spent listening to them.

It's not about you, it's not personal. It's their issue. Period.

[Bewhatever]

There use to be a guy here (on this forum) on a crusade, trying to get SE to delete lalafells and telling everyone who played the race that they were perverts. Some creepy people agreed with him, and even my ex-boyfriend made comments about it.

Meanwhile, I'm a 25 year old woman without any mental illnesses that just enjoys dressing up a chibi avatar (a potato with a head) in cute looking outfits. Back in the day I changed to miqo'te because of these men's disturbing claims; I didn't want to deal with being bullied by them anymore, and as someone who use to be a heavy forum-goer I experienced it almost on the daily. But just recently I returned to the game and missed the cuteness of a potato avatar and changed back to lalafell.

The issue is, ever since then I have had anxiety because of my experience of being bullied when playing the race. It's basically ruined the race for me... I've considered changing back, but I wanted to see if others have had similar experiences or if these creeps have cleared out from the forum.

I'm a guy irl, married 32 years, play the same male lalafell in game for 4 or 5 years now. Don't ERP. Don't get creepy with other people's female avatars. This anti-lalafell nonsense baffled me until I finally concluded:

There is a set of people in game, presumably male, who feel entitled to objectify every female avatar in game. They've realized lalafells aren't visually good to objectify and objectifying them has overtones of pedophilia (which is nonsense, I play a short adult, not a child). So instead of looking at their own behavior, they are trying to shame all females into playing more easily objectified races.

As a male lalafell I have never been subjected to this hate, at least not that I noticed. But I have a hair trigger to put people on blacklist (at age 62 irl life is simply too short to waste time or energy on griefers/trolls), and recommend you do the same, using harassment complaints for egregious cases. I do get unsolicited head pats from time to time, which is a wierd but to-me-harmless custom.

My recommendation is play what you want, file a harassment complaint against anyone who bullies you, and blacklist anyone who makes you uncomfortable without crossing the line into bullying. Assume it's not personal: if you look at the classic textbooks on MMO design from the last 20 years one of the facts is that 10% of the player base is "griefers" -- people who get their jollies bullying other players or interfering in their play. It's not about you, it's about them. FFXIV has a lot less than 10% in this category, which speaks well of the game and its developers, and FFXIV takes harassment complaints very seriously. Edit: even this forum has an "ignore list", just click on the name of a poster that's being offensive, and right click on their name from their profile page and select ignore. So use the tools you are given and lock the griefers out of your gaming experience.

Good luck, and have fun.

[Mhaeric]

Playing a Lalafell is almost (not entirely), almost a guarantee not to be harassed by ERP players on most of the servers on the Crystal Data Center. (Also, have not experienced any problems on most EU servers as well.)

Fun fact:

I created a Hrothgar alt just to try out character creation and see how their animations were in game, and got this "greeting" from a female miqo'te avatar even before the loading screen into Ul'dah finished loading for me. It took like 3 seconds, tops.

[Alucard135]

Fun fact:

I created a Hrothgar alt just to try out character creation and see how their animations were in game, and got this "greeting" from a female miqo'te avatar even before the loading screen into Ul'dah finished loading for me. It took like 3 seconds, tops.

Balmung.

10char/

[RoyalBeef]

There is a set of people in game, presumably male, who feel entitled to objectify every female avatar in game.

lolwut. Oh damn it's the patriarchy again, now even oppressing virtual fantasy avatars! x)

blacklist anyone who makes you uncomfortable

Probably the only sane suggestion I read in 24 pages of this ^^

But then, in another thread someone suggested that blacklisting people is toxic and enforcing systemic pressure or some other word salad stuff onto them... damn, we've come full circle now where you should blacklist toxic people, but then become toxic yourself for blacklisting them

[Galenini]

lolwut. Oh damn it's the patriarchy again, now even oppressing virtual fantasy avatars! x)



Probably the only sane suggestion I read in 24 pages of this ^^

But then, in another thread someone suggested that blacklisting people is toxic and enforcing systemic pressure or some other word salad stuff onto them... damn, we've come full circle now where you should blacklist toxic people, but then become toxic yourself for blacklisting them

What? Blacklisting toxic people is toxic?

Damn, somebody needs to tell ALL of humanity that they've been toxic for the last millenia because that is what a healthy society does... (e.g. ostracize).

I've only ever used it twice in mentor chat to block 2 other mentors - both reported - in an effort to ease my blood pressure. I've used it from time to time in overall game in the last 5 years. And I avoid the Plaza and the Quicksand in Ul'dah as much as possible.

Thanks Beale for pointing out that blacklist ALSO exists as an appropriate response on the forum. (Had totally forgotten that was an option here.)