So, can we just ban damage meters already.

[Taika]

I don’t disagree with you about the state of tanks. However, I am concerned that there are many tanks putting an over-emphasis on damage. I’ve been in dungeons as a healer and there are many bad tanks who simply aren’t using their defensive CDS, they focus on their DPS and expect me, the healer, to just help keep them alive, so I spend my whole time spamming heals to keep them alive (cause they also don’t want to adjust for mechanics), and somehow as the healer, I am also supposed to have high DPS?

This argument doesn't make any sense. Tank defensive cooldowns are off cooldown abilities. You're not using them instead of your DPS abilities but between them and in double weaves with DPS abilities. So for tanks, this is not a question of choosing between a DPS skill or a defensive skill, because you're always able to use them at the same time. Choosing to not use mitigation skills does not make you do any more DPS. So it doesn't make any sense to claim these tanks are over-emphasising dps over mitigation, since that's not really possible to do. They are just bad players ignoring a very important part of their toolkit.