Marriage Partner Hookup Megathread!

[Yenyen]

Random question, not to debate or anything but something that crossed my mind
Typically people can get used to the presence of another
in this case what I have in mind is
There are people who are looking for strictly in game romances and stuff etc etc
soo with that being said
what happens when the other person decides they want to find something proper?
Have/are any of you not looking for anything real, been with somebody in game a while and they leave for something proper?
Call it my own little study, how does that work, how does the person feel who doesn't want anything real (at all) when the person they're always with normally isn't there anymore?

Educate me ^^, I'm not here to ridicule or make an example of anybody for their preferences

[Afyde]

Random question, not to debate or anything but something that crossed my mind
Typically people can get used to the presence of another
in this case what I have in mind is
There are people who are looking for strictly in game romances and stuff etc etc
soo with that being said
what happens when the other person decides they want to find something proper?
Have/are any of you not looking for anything real, been with somebody in game a while and they leave for something proper?
Call it my own little study, how does that work, how does the person feel who doesn't want anything real (at all) when the person they're always with normally isn't there anymore?

Educate me ^^, I'm not here to ridicule or make an example of anybody for their preferences

I know 5 different couples who have met in game and are now married. No rush jobs, it took time of course. So I know it does happen. I know tons want the IG/ON Line experience of the "in a couple" status. I can't give you a number, it seems to be a bit more common than just friends.

That category is broken up in a couple of ways. some are married and claim they can do anything on line BUT never meet in rl. I won't say they are or not being honest about that they can or can't do it. it's just hinky to me unless you get their SO to tell you its ok. I know most people are not out to cause problems or be a home wrecker or want the drama.

There are some who are single and want the on line and in game relationship.

Some just wanna collection of people to call their own. with or without each other knowing of each other.

Some want a hookup.

and some just want a gaming partner and a rl on line friend to chill and be themselves with.

Some want just friendships. Nothing more.

Some want friendships and it may evolve into more. Those seem to be the ones that last. they have built a foundation and made a true connection off of a friendship and it blossomed into more over time.

Some just want the gear and mount from EBs. (eternal bonds)

Me personally, friendships. that's my happy place. If it turns into something more. Icing on the cake but that's a ways away.If they are want more, they will be worth the wait until I get there, if I get there first, they will be worth the wait.

There are many situations and scenarios. but the bottom line is, most are looking for someone to get to know, hang out with, learn from. enjoy in a long lasting "relationship" of some sort. FFXIV is an awesome game but if you can find someone to share it with and enjoy things with it enhances the experience. Not many want to go on vacation alone....same with FFXIV

I hope this helps. it's not really a statistical point of view for sure but it may give some insight on what people are here for.

[Yenyen]

I hope this helps. it's not really a statistical point of view for sure but it may give some insight on what people are here for.

It gave me a littlemore insight thank you ^^

[Aelemar]

That category is broken up in a couple of ways. some are married and claim they can do anything on line BUT never meet in rl. I won't say they are or not being honest about that they can or can't do it. it's just hinky to me unless you get their SO to tell you its ok.

I personally think that this one doesn't really make a lot of sense. I mean, specifying that you are "married in RL" in itself will cut your chances of receiving a reply by at least 90%. So why bother putting information that would greatly diminish your chances of someone contacting you? When you could have much better results by lying and simply saying "I'm not interested in an RL relationship at all, and would like everything to stay in-game/online".

In other words, if you're going to lie about being "married but able to do anything online as long as we don't meet in RL", then might as well just hide the fact that you're married altogether, and come up with some BS excuse as to why you don't want an RL relationship.

Which would you say is more trustworthy: The one that says "no RL relationship" with vague reasons (or none) (and it has happened tons of times that big drama has ensued because certain people didn't bother to disclose their RL status/preferences to in-game partners)
Or the one that says "No RL relationships, and these are the reasons why"

Whether their SO has actually given approval or not is beside the point, in this case. But the fact that they choose to disclose such information (that once again, greatly diminishes the chances of a reply) when they could very well simply choose to omit it is worth some consideration.

[Mikhaill]

Random question, not to debate or anything but something that crossed my mind
Typically people can get used to the presence of another
in this case what I have in mind is
There are people who are looking for strictly in game romances and stuff etc etc
soo with that being said
what happens when the other person decides they want to find something proper?
Have/are any of you not looking for anything real, been with somebody in game a while and they leave for something proper?
Call it my own little study, how does that work, how does the person feel who doesn't want anything real (at all) when the person they're always with normally isn't there anymore?

Educate me ^^, I'm not here to ridicule or make an example of anybody for their preferences

People in this topic have all sorts of reasons, but most of them are ulterior motives and evolves to some creepy nonsense.
This is why a lot of people here just gave up or stayed away.
I mean, as long as you state what you're looking for (most of the time when people say MUST be a female/male in real life)
that's obviously them looking for more. Just say you want a girlfriend so we know what people are getting into lol.

I personally like checking this thread to see anything cute happened and both sides are happy.
I used this to make friends a while ago, to be honest.
The moment they know I'ma girl their hopes are raised and then when I say I have a boyfriend...
I am promptly met with the "blocked" button door lol. This happened twice though.

I wish I could warn people on some folks because someone in recent pages is a disgusting pervert...
So I am done looking for friends lol.

[Afyde]

People in this topic have all sorts of reasons, but most of them are ulterior motives and evolves to some creepy nonsense.
This is why a lot of people here just gave up or stayed away.
I mean, as long as you state what you're looking for (most of the time when people say MUST be a female/male in real life)
that's obviously them looking for more. Just say you want a girlfriend so we know what people are getting into lol.

I personally like checking this thread to see anything cute happened and both sides are happy.
I used this to make friends a while ago, to be honest.
The moment they know I'ma girl their hopes are raised and then when I say I have a boyfriend...
I am promptly met with the "blocked" button door lol. This happened twice though.

I wish I could warn people on some folks because someone in recent pages is a disgusting pervert...
So I am done looking for friends lol.

Oh I know what you mean all too well. "Blocked" is so easily used in game and on line. Friendships are valuable to me. I Cherish them. To them, its a passing thing. People literally think, "so many fish in the sea, I can find another". I had to keep friendzoning someone for months and I thought it was clear and straightened out. But he had big dreams. He wanted to also be my partner in everything like running the fc and stuff. No one was qualified to do that. He had some responsibilities in the fc though a partner helping me run it isn't really needed. We had the staff. Well anyways, He saw a friend of mine who also had responsibilities with in the fc emote me that "alluring" heart thing he just got, I think its a SAM class that gives it out or something, and I was blocked.Ghosted. SMH

One time, (at band camp) I mean umm.. sometimes, people are in awe with the girls who own FCs and are very attracted to that. and those never last. Its the person that matters. not the titles..Soo many reasons and mindsets on why people do things these days. I wish I had the script in their heads before hand, At least I would know if i want to sign up for the part. giggling

[Aladire]

I would make a post here, but my life is extremely busy. So, I can only play for about 1 to 1.5 hours a night and then on the weekend. I would love to make friends to play with as I been lonely in the game and only have 1 friend, whom cannot play because their internet is slow and dc a lot, but otherwise, I am by myself.

I been trying to find a FC with more active members on the weekend and like to party together, but that has been very hard on Aether.

While I am always open to the idea of a friendship turning to something more as a single guy, but I never gave that a thought as I think any relationship started online rarely ever does well or goes anywhere. I just think people think more of it is a game and keep it as just it is a game.

I do hope that those who meet others from these posts and such do end up very happy.

[WarzonePrez]

Oh I know what you mean all too well. "Blocked" is so easily used in game and on line. Friendships are valuable to me. I Cherish them. To them, its a passing thing. People literally think, "so many fish in the sea, I can find another". I had to keep friendzoning someone for months and I thought it was clear and straightened out. But he had big dreams. He wanted to also be my partner in everything like running the fc and stuff. No one was qualified to do that. He had some responsibilities in the fc though a partner helping me run it isn't really needed. We had the staff. Well anyways, He saw a friend of mine who also had responsibilities with in the fc emote me that "alluring" heart thing he just got, I think its a SAM class that gives it out or something, and I was blocked.Ghosted. SMH

Sometimes, someone can't help but dream big. But sometimes an officer can say something in a DM to you that makes you want to leave the FC. And maybe being afraid of having to confront said FC leader over that would make them want to, at least for a while, temporarily block them on some fronts. I could definitely see having to leave an FC that you promised you would stay and commit to being awkward and hurtful. Especially if you really did consider that FC leader a friend (despite wanting more), and really honestly did have the best of intentions.

I'm pretty sure that person hasn't blocked you forever. No one likes Ghosting. And not everyone fades away.

[Maniclykin]

Oh I know what you mean all too well. "Blocked" is so easily used in game and on line. Friendships are valuable to me. I Cherish them. To them, its a passing thing. People literally think, "so many fish in the sea, I can find another". I had to keep friendzoning someone for months and I thought it was clear and straightened out. But he had big dreams. He wanted to also be my partner in everything like running the fc and stuff. No one was qualified to do that. He had some responsibilities in the fc though a partner helping me run it isn't really needed. We had the staff. Well anyways, He saw a friend of mine who also had responsibilities with in the fc emote me that "alluring" heart thing he just got, I think its a SAM class that gives it out or something, and I was blocked.Ghosted. SMH

One time, (at band camp) I mean umm.. sometimes, people are in awe with the girls who own FCs and are very attracted to that. and those never last. Its the person that matters. not the titles..Soo many reasons and mindsets on why people do things these days. I wish I had the script in their heads before hand, At least I would know if i want to sign up for the part. giggling

I have actually had to use that block feature mostly with men as I stated in my other post chick in RL my actual preference is females however since I am not going into things looking for RL I have played a female char and did in game with males and I always upfront like look its fun and stuff online but in real your not my cup of tea but without fail within a few weeks they arE wanting special pics sending me some and im like ya no blocked. Nothing grind my gears more as well is the whole ghosting online its like are we being serious right now I am to old to play those games lol.