Not feeling comfortable on my current data centre Chaos(EU). Thinking of transfering.

[Schan]

I am going to double down on what Vidu said to be honest.

First of all I'm sorry you've had bad experiences in Chaos, but you also need to be aware that this is the internet and people will be nasty if they can get away with it. No matter where you run to, you will bump into these kind of people. FFXIV might have a better community than other games but it still has its share of rotten apples. You will bump into them. It's just a matter of when.

Also yes, french have this special thing about hating English in general. I don't know if it has historical roots or what but things get extra spicy if you ask them to speak English. They usually get highly offended over it. Funnily enough I've met more french people from Cerberus and Ragnarok than Moogle (probably because just like the spanish they tend to stick with people who speak the same language instead of mingling with others) - disclaimer: there are exceptions and you are less likely to notice they are french if they are speaking English with you anyway / have the game set to E

A lot of people are very very self aware. This is why you have so many topics discussing anxiety regarding healing, tanking and/or social activities (meeting strangers, speaking a foreign language) and gaming tends to be an escape for people who suffer with depression / anxiety. That's why such issues tend to be prevalent topics of discussion at times. Basically my point is: you're not alone. Considering what i've read and how you are concerned about you getting depressed because people have been rude to you, you have several choices here (that I can think of):

Avoid the internet. - basically your brain wins at making you feel miserable and you don't get to enjoy your things. (please don't let your brain win. your brain is not your friend)
Avoid online games. - depends how much you like FFXIV (see first point)
Find friends online and do stuff only with friends - Literally my FC leader falls in this category. He is a very anxious person and other people have completely destroyed his confidence regarding being a decent DPS ingame. i'm trying trying to encourage him to get out of his shell but ultimately it's his choice.
Say Whiff it and throw yourself at matchmaking and deal with people as they are - That's basically me even though I'm anti-social, because most people don't really speak in dungeons and such so whatever.

I would say... find a group of friends you can trust but dip your toes into matchmaking sometimes. you need to slowly tackle the fact that you get seriously depressed if anyone is remotely mean to you but that kind of stuff is completely up to you and it takes a lot of time and commitment not to mention it won't be a video game that will fix it.

edit: i forgot to say... don't go into the JP servers. They can be nasty towards English speaking people. In a very passive aggressive way of course.