
Originally Posted by
HyoMinPark
I have these same sentiments. I’m not someone who cares about the rewards—I’ve had Mentor Roulette unlocked almost since the system was put in place back in 3.2 (?), but only started doing it recently because I’m bored and revisiting old content is fun sometimes. A lot of the times, there’s no need to explain any mechanics: I tend to get a lot of Guildhests and baby dungeons or leveling dungeons in my roulettes, and people rarely ask questions. However, when the odd EX primal pops up, I can spend the entire 60 minutes explaining how to do the fight for people to just... not listen. And that is the most frustrating part. I’m reminded of a Shiva EX I had where me (WHM) and one of the tanks were the only people who knew the fight. And the other 6 players just would not listen to our explanations, despite us using waymarks and everything. And then they would wonder why they kept dying...People also don’t like being criticized. You can offer constructive criticism in the nicest way possible, and someone will still bite your head off over it. For some reason, they see it as a personal attack on their character if you offer advice like, “Try using X skill—it increases the damage you deal” or “When there are 3+ mobs, try pressing X AOE SKILL because things will die faster”. Or even mechanical things—I had a person in Orbonne whine at me when they failed Divine Retribution during Agrias (didn’t have a tether, but stood with the tethers and did not use the shield Duty Action), and when I told them they did the mechanic incorrectly and that was why they died (i.e., it was not a healing problem like they insisted it was), they whined some more (and then died twice more because they were too busy whining).
Not getting thanked for explanations can be a bit grating, but I got used to that a long time ago just though playing healing jobs. You can carry an entire alliance through a 24-man, healing and raising and dealing damage, and still the people who ate AOEs and died 5 times each boss won’t bother saying “Thanks for all those Raises you gave me!”
However, changing mindsets is a really hard thing to do. The Mentor system apparently works well in Japan, but they have a more collective mindset compared to Western countries. I won’t get into debates about which is a better mindset, and I don’t think the West should be “more like JP”—I’m just agreeing with the above poster that mindset is important. So long as “Mentors” just want the shinies and “Non-Mentors” don’t want to listen to the advice actual Mentors are giving out, nothing will really change.