Looks like I'm going to be looking for a new FC (rant)

[KageTokage]

I can relate, having been kicked from a FC because one of the officers apparently was housing a grudge against me for reasons I'm not entirely certain of and made up some blatant lies to the leader so I'd get kicked (The claim was that I actually hated the FC and that they saw me talking down about it...which is utterly stupid because I wouldn't have joined it in the first place had that really been the case).

The leader even admitted that they were probably full of BS but for the sake of the FC's integrity they felt it better to cave to their demands.

It really can be a chore to find a FC without any people who cause you trouble, honestly.

[Erendis]

The leader even admitted that they were probably full of BS but for the sake of the FC's integrity they felt it better to cave to their demands.

Could have just kicked the liar, but I guess it was not really about fc integrity...

[Gemina]

Still awake and having troubles sleeping, but wanted to thank everyone for the support and kind words. Just so you guys know, I do have the support of the other guild members. They're like my older brothers looking after their little sis and have helped in so many ways throughout the days. They taught me how to tank in this game when I expressed how much I wanted to play DRK, encouraged my skill growth taking me into harder content I was once too intimidated to run, showed me the proper path to gearing up, and have always been very patient with me cuz I'm such a tortoise when it comes to progression, and have made sure I've caught no spoilers along the way; they've provided emotional support; were quick to jump on anyone who would try to give me a hard time in PUGs, among so many other things. I can't say they will leave the FC along with me, nor do I have any expectations of them to do so. I would never have the audacity to say, "I'm leaving so you guys should too." They were members of that FC long before I came along.

The current guildleader was given the FC after the previous leader decided to unsub from the game. I was told the previous leader did a much better job of getting people together, making things fun, and expansion. It worked much like an actual FC back then and that went away along with that leader, which was a big reason why so many ended up leaving when I first joined. The other member are the only reason why I'm even considering staying, but I just don't think I can even be around or associated with anything this crappy person is a part of. I'll only become infuriated seeing her name in the chat logs.

Similar to how there are no laws to protect me from what happened with my previous employer; there is nothing in the ToS the GMs can do anything about, even the new one. I am fully aware of these kind of people that exist in both the real world and the virtual world, and all we can do is no longer associate with them in any way and hope that they get a fat dose of karma somewhere down the line. It just sucks and there's no light at the end of the tunnel for me right now. I really didn't need this, and I'm just hurt. Things like this is why I resonate with the DRK job soooo much.

I can say that these other guild members and I will continue to be friends, and we'll still get together to run things. But even with a new FC, I know I'll be different. The chatty, high-spirited, and bubbly Gem in bruised up and needs time to heal. I don't/can't even think of starting a FC right now, and would be very shy and quite in a new FC. Perhaps after some moons pass things will get better.

[Enla]

I can relate, having been kicked from a FC because one of the officers apparently was housing a grudge against me for reasons I'm not entirely certain of and made up some blatant lies to the leader so I'd get kicked.

The leader even admitted that they were probably full of BS but for the sake of the FC's integrity they felt it better to cave to their demands.

It really can be a chore to find a FC without any people who cause you trouble, honestly.

It's why I refuse to leave mine, dead though it is right now with the content lull. Everyone is chill and I really /really/ do not want to play Russian Roulette in trying to find something similar just because people aren't as hyper active as they used to be. I've dealt with too many instances of nepotism, immaturity befitting five year olds from grown adults, and even people letting predators fester in their ranks for the sake of 'group unity' to really stick my neck out again.

To Gemina, I'm super sorry you dealt with all that... And I hope you find a better place. ):

[KageTokage]

Could have just kicked the liar, but I guess it was not really about fc integrity...

The ironic thing is that the leader eventually ended up dropping out of the FC and making a new one after passing the leadership to someone else, so there was likely deeper issues I wasn't aware of.

I'll never know the truth of the matter because they refused to give any other specifics for the sake of "protecting" their members, which still bothers me to this day.

It's why I refuse to leave mine, dead though it is right now with the content lull. Everyone is chill and I really /really/ do not want to play Russian Roulette in trying to find something similar just because people aren't as hyper active as they used to be. I've dealt with too many instances of nepotism, immaturity befitting five year olds from grown adults, and even people letting predators fester in their ranks for the sake of 'group unity' to really stick my neck out again.

I feel this issue is probably more prevalent in what I've heard described as "Walmart FCs", that is, ones that invite anyone and everyone with the main intent being to bolster their numbers over establishing any real feeling of unity or community.

[MirielleLavandre]

*hugs* I'm sorry for your treatment, Gemina, and see that you're even on my server. I hope you are able to keep being cheerful and upbeat, though I completely understand wanting to go back to turtle mode and either become really isolated or really cynical. I recently also had a terrible experience with a FC on the server, so I kinda know where you're coming from. My first response was to just go into a 'all FCs suck and I'm never going to join another or even be nice to people since it'll just end badly'. But, then I saw that if I do that, and change my usually happy and nice self, then I'm kind of letting the mean people who caused me pain win -- in essence, letting the way they treated me dictate how I act towards others gives them more power than they deserve. So, hopefully you can keep smiling and having fun. If ya ever wanna chat or just hang out for fun, look me up ^_^v

[Keddera_StormMoon]

Man, that is a serious kick in the teeth. You have my sympathies.

What's been with our server lately? I feel like this story has repeated a lot in various FC's lately.

My own FC is closed at the moment, but can make exceptions. Failing that, I can point you to another who I know at least has 2 exceedingly kind members that I think very highly of.

When you're ready, of course.

[DrWho2010]

All of you should leave and create your own fc together and never interact with her again.

Also, i would suggest you take a break from the game and get your life sorted - getting depressed and being unemployed will color the way you view the game and could be dangerous as you use it to escape the real world. I know of a couple people in my group of online friends that have had their lives ruined somewhat because they played too much and couldn't get their real life sorted out.

[Brynne]

Wow, that is awful. I'd be more upset about the betrayal of trust than the minion, too. >.> I'm sorry something like that happened.

If you want, you're welcome to join our FC, but it's a much bigger one with a lot of different types of people in it so it may not be the small, close-knit unit you're looking for. We do try to be friendly and inclusive to everyone, though!

[Arrhin]

Mmmmnn, variations of this story are sadly...somewhat common. People act different when there's no real consequences, and some are jus $#%@s. Good on all of those who maintain a sense of dignity, respect and honor online. Rest o them &%^$er can go an #$#%@^^@%^ up a #%^#$^$%damned pole fer all I care <.< . I hope yer irl stuffs gets sorted too, you sound like a decent person who I'd love to have in my FC xD

(I too am bubbly, yet...crass an an acquired taste I s'pose)