I apologize in advance for this rant thread. I also want to thank anyone in advance if you read through all of this. I'm not asking for a pity party, but need to get some things out.

My FC is/was a tightknit group. There's about 6 of us who log on consistently, and about 5 others who come and go. We always run roulettes together, but raids, EX primal farm (older primals for ponies and birds), hunts, maps, or a combination of them is when we can grab some of the other members who only come along on Saturday. Especially the guildleader.

Before I get into what happened, I would like to make some things known to those willing to hear me out. It will be important to know.

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The guildleader is someone most of us consider to be very selfish. When we group, she keeps us waiting around prior to queueing so she can tend to things that she can do later. Things like checking retainers and managing her inventory. Sensing the frustration from the other members, I would always ask them to be patient.

They have no desire to do workshop related activities because no one is compensated for their time. She sends out the airships and submarines and collects all the spoils for herself. We would tend to let this go because she puts in all the work, and we just show up so she has a full party to progress the projects. Her and I are really the only ones who enjoy crafting and gathering, but all us of rather be doing other things since she is so hush-hush about what she's up to.

A lot of time would pass before she could advance a project, and she would get frustrated with this. I explained to her what I just mentioned, and told her that the 'boys' will be more willing to help if she would participate more in the things we do as an FC such as daily roulettes, but it would always be me asking them for their help, and not her.

She's been playing a lot longer than myself, but I eventually surpassed her centurio gear because I actually grind tomes and raids. She'd talk about how much queue time sucks as a DPS, but any of us were always willing to tank and heal for her. Eventually, I wanted to finish up 4.5 as an FC but she was stuck at ilv340. So I grabbed my DRK and basically dragged her into roulettes so she could get to the ilv365 requirement to finish everything up. All the SB 8-man and 24-man raids, Four Lords, and Ghimlyt Dark were cleared for her because of my help.

There was a time when we a had a LOT more players in the FC, and most of them were fed up with her and left. All of them except me. I stood around even though she had not logged on for nearly three weeks, and took care of the gardens and stable. She eventually did come back and I let her know what happened, and assured her she still had me.

It was just her and I for a few months and we would have a lot of idle chat. Talking about everything, including some things going on irl. I considered her a friend. Eventually, I managed to get some players back - our current roster. I seemingly became the glue that kept everyone from leaving a second time as most of them came to me saying they were thinking about it.

Among those irl things we talked about, I let her know that I lost my job of 15 years over some crazy BS, which is another long story I won't get into. In short, I was screwed over by my former boss, and have been unemployed for about two months now. I got my unemployment claim approved, which the company is now appealing. Yup, after everything I sacrificed for them which includes personal time, and time away from my family. These last couple months, I've been falling deeper and deeper into a depressive state. I've been trying so hard to get a new job and complying with the regulations set by the unemployment company. So many applications sent out, and I've landed a few interviews. Still waiting to hear back from two of them; one of which would be such an awesome job to have, and a start to a new career.
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So what happened was last night we got together to do some maps. We have a strict rule that has always been in place that need is only rolled by the owner of the map. Everyone else is free to role greed if they want the item.

During one of my runs of the treasure dungeons I got a Thief's map, which we ran right away. Luck was totally on my side this run, and even pulled the x4 loot from the random card game in there and everyone got that Golden Namazu minion. We ended up clearing the whole dungeon and the Hedgehoglet minion dropped. I quickly made sure I had enough inventory space, and rolled need on it... but I didn't get it. The FC leader also rolled need and popped the minion immediately after getting it. When we questioned her why she rolled need, she said nothing and logged out.

I couldn't believe it. I still can't believe it. After everything I've done for her and the FC, and that she knows what a hard time I am having with life right now. I knew she was selfish, but to cheat me out of a minion worth 4 million gil I was blindsided. I talked with the other two members after cooling down a bit and told them I unfriended all four of her characters, and will proceed to blacklist all of them and leave the FC. One said it might have been an accident and to at least talk to her. I said I would sleep on it, but once I make a decision it is extremely rare I reverse it. I want absolutely nothing to do with her. Once your on my schite list, you are DONE.

Bare in mind, this has NOTHING to do with the minion. I can buy that minion without even scratching my back. It's about principle, etiquette, respect; along with the audacity and selflessness of others. That people always show their true colors eventually. I blame myself because I should have seen it coming, but there is nothing I wouldn't do for my friends and guildmates. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Something that ends up biting me in the ass time and time again, and I think it's at the point where I can't fault anyone except my own damn self.

I'm no saint either. In my early days I've done things that have given me a profound amount of guilt and remorse I will always carry with me, and maybe that's why these things keep happening. I'll continue to try and be a good person and considerate and courteous of others. But yeah, it looks like I'm going to be FC-less for the first time since joining the game.

I really appreciate all of you, and thank you so much for your time.