Cactuar is a higher-mid-pop server that has a fairly active and dedicated Hunt community; I’m in 2 LS that frequently call them out like clockwork, and the Hunt community is really friendly (and they don’t tolerate trolling when it comes to the Hunts). The server community is fairly well-rounded, and has a little bit of just about everything.

As for houses, smalls open up occasionally in all 4 housing wards. Just make sure to dedicate the time to checking aetherytes every hour to available plots.