Quote Originally Posted by Ceallach View Post
The fact she didn't say what you said is what made it insulting. It was the same as saying I'm "a retarded piece of trash that can't tell the difference between a goobbue and a rabbit," for example. I realize that it's especially difficult with text-only conversation to watch one's tone, but she is someone who should work harder at that. In the meantime, I will work on not lashing out immediately at rude people.

I was simply trying to point out priorities. As healers, our duty first and foremost is to prevent death. If people die, and it wasn't because they were being silly by standing in a clearly-marked area attack or something, it's probably our fault. That DPS loss is the healer's fault for not healing when he or she should have. Damage output is nice, but because it's so secondary to what we do, it requires teamwork to allow for. If everyone else is doing their jobs well, then sure, blast away. I have no issue with that. But if people don't know the fight or are bad at the game in general, a healer shouldn't bother with attack spells because progression is more important than healer DPS. That's all I was trying to say, and if not for a certain someone's sarcastic reply, it's all I would have said.
I assure you my intended tone was one of sarcasm. I had assumed that was clear based on the ridiculous preposition of purposely killing myself only to blame a healer. There is a difference between responding to a comment you see as stupid with sarcasm and calling people names. What I said to you may have ruffled your feathers but it also got my point across, what you said to me was just you being petty and insulting. There is a difference.

For the sake of you feeling like your opinion is respected I'll lose the sarcasm and see if you prefer this response.

You assert that the party dps contribution is somehow also the dps contribution of the healer(s) keeping them alive to do that dps.

By that train of thought anything anyone does that saves the life of another party member means the dps contributed by the rescued player is also dps contributed by their rescuer. After all this person would not be alive without the help of their ally.

So a PLD covering someone now is credited with the dps contribution of the recipient of that cover. A WAR using Shake it Off or a BRD popping Troubadour is also now credited with potentially 'keeping people alive'...

Do you see how convoluted this is? No one is ever able to take credit for someone else's contribution. We are all responsible for the numbers we put up. If as a healer you choose to ignore your healing responsibilities in favor of pumping out dps even if the entire party apart from you dies as long as you clear your numbers are still your own.

I'm not advocating for healers to prioritize their personal dps over the lives of their party members. Feel free to look at my logs - I clearly prioritize necessary healing over my own damage. Don't attempt to straw man me.

You tried to say that a dealer's dps contribution was related to the party members they keep alive. That is the issue here. Don't try to backpedal now, the quote is there. Whether you do 1k dps and do an amazing job keeping everyone alive or 1k dps and let people die left and right your personal damage remains the same. I'm not arguing those two people performed equally well, only that they have the same exact dps contribution.

As for ignoring dps for the sake of a weak party... get a better party.