Quote Originally Posted by Super_Bee_Brian View Post
People Connections… Not just mere friends but also your “allies”, for lack of a better word. A perfect example of someone with good people connections is a leader of a thriving Free Company.

So tell me, dear friends, what is the secret to success in this game with regards to the aforementioned “gauges”?
Very seriously. From your previous posts and things you've talked about, I think you truly believe friends and connections are important - but also that you might not be going about it in a great way.

From your early post about your FC, where you said you were investing all your time into these people and why wouldn't they stay, but I think you may have actually been making them uncomfortable with what you felt was welcoming behaviour, and then feeling like they owed you something because of it.

From the deleted thread where you talked about how you could just get people to give you stuff for free.

And then the "importance of friends" thread you started... by talking about how your friends are important to your experience because they give you stuff.

There seems to be a pattern here, and it's not one that will make you seem like a good friend to others, however much you talk about friends being important in an MMO.

Maybe you do have genuinely wonderful friendships, enjoy each other's company and you're as generous with them as they are with you. But that's not what I'm hearing from you in your posts.

Player connections are important but the way to build them is by helping others. Be generous. Don't make it about what you can get from them. Can you give them something? Help them through a dungeon for MSQ progress? Give advice? Do your daily roulettes together? Play the game with them, and let the connection form naturally if you get along well. Don't insist there has to be a connection just because this is an MMO and you've teamed up with them.

Look at the responses to your friendship post. They're about community and relationships and talking to other people. That's what makes friends important in the game. Not how much free stuff you can get from them.


Relationships are hard, and it's something I've had to learn to some extent. If if doesn't come naturally, you have to actively think about what the other person might be feeling.