FFXIV Poll/Survey: Does The IRL Gender Of An Eternal Bond Partner Matter To You?

[Alleo]

Sure we do. It's great to talk about something other than that stupid app.

Its kinda funny how some are like: Stop talking about negative stuff!! And yet when someone just post an interesting neutral thread some are like "gee you can get your information there already" or "do we really need that"..Oh the irony..

About the topic: As a rl female I honestly dont care because I never did marry ingame for RP or love. The first one was with a male because I wanted the items with it and he was okay with being the partner. When I went out of the FC the marriage was gone. The second one was with a former female friend that also wanted the items and since we did like each others as friends at that time I said yes.

I only would not do that if its someone I completely dont know or if they come of as really creepy..kinda like suddenly wanting something in rl too.

[Solarianna]

This is a question that's kind of awkward for me, since although I know my answer, I can't 100% explain the why of it.

For context, I'm a heterosexual male.

Even though I check the EB megathread quite regularly, I'd say I do it mostly out of curiosity, as I would certainly not describe myself as being "actively in search" for someone to EB. Yes, it would be nice, but I've never had the intent of contacting anyone for that reason, nor felt the need to take active steps toward it. I'm more certainly under the "if it happens, it happens" banner. The couple of times in which I could've benefited from the 2-person mount to help someone out were basically the only times in which I "wished" I'd have been EB'd.
But here's where it starts to get weird for me to explain. Firstly, I'd never go through EB just for the mount. I'd like it to hold more meaning than that. E.g. a symbolic thing with a friend that I like to play with.
Also, I don't associate the idea of EB'ing with any sort of irl romantic commitment, nor do I want to. And even if I did, it wouldn't be sustainable, as I don't believe you can build a relationship at that level/with that intent based only on the Internet, without proximity.
The logical answer, from this train of thought that I have, would be to say that, as consequence, I wouldn't really care about the irl gender of the person playing the character, if I was ever to EB.
But, for some reason, that's not my answer.
I can't imagine myself going through with it unless I'd be sure that the person playing the character was a female. Now, I've been asked about this before, and the only answer (as to why) I've been able to come up with is that I can't disconnect the character from the person (in other words, I'd always see EB as me EBing someone, instead of my character EBing another character), and since I'm straight, I obviously wouldn't imagine myself going through any kind of celebration that would (even if only by definition, and even if I myself would only want to base it on "EBing someone that I like to play with, no more, no less") imply romantic relationships with anyone other than a female.

It's obviously not the most logical of reasonings, but it's the only one I've been able to come up with, when asked.

[urban]

I was against this marry stuff when it was talk about during beta...this is the reason why it shouldnt be implemented...smh

[Gleipni]

Quite funny how male looks for a big part for women,but women don't reaaly care for their gender.

[CatStarPrime]

In-game, it doesn't matter, as long as the persona behind the character is attractive.

We'll hopefully never know each other's true sex. I try to maintain the role and the character, to the point, I will not use voice chat in-game, not for any reason - because "I don't want to hear your voice. I want to hear your character's voice!"

Come with me
And you'll be
In a world of pure imagination
Take a look
And you'll see
Into your imagination

[DreadRabbit]

It's obviously not the most logical of reasonings, but it's the only one I've been able to come up with, when asked.

Affairs of the heart are rarely ever logical. I don't think you should feel awkward for coming to the conclusion.

In my own post I mentioned that if I did it with just a friend it wouldn't matter. But I thought about it as well and I'm just not the type who would EB with a friend given the underlying tone of the EB ceremony is romantic. I'm also not the type to say "I love you," to a friend (unless they are really, really reeaaally "We've known each other for 5+ years" kind of close) if that helps put things into perspective. I've got nothing against others that do, but to me the words hold too much weight to be tossed around easily. I wouldn't mind helping a friend EB so they could get the items, but I would feel pretty awkward using the items I would get out of it because of what they were attached to. So they would probably just collect dust in my inventory somewhere.

Perhaps it's over thinking it, but everyone's different.