Anxiety over Savage

[Mokkabron]

Maybe you are just bad at the game?

People needs to stop thinking that anxiety is the main soruce of al his problems.

[HyoMinPark]

Maybe you are just bad at the game?

People needs to stop thinking that anxiety is the main soruce of al his problems.

Spoken like someone who has never suffered from anxiety a day in their life.

Anxiety is not rational; it causes you to think irrationally with regards to everything. And, as someone who has suffered from intense anxiety for well over 10 years, has been to therapy for it, and who still has to take medication sometimes to get it under control during stressful periods, I firmly believe OP is suffering from it based alone on the comments about that little voice in the back of his mind telling him he isn't good enough. I also have that voice that screams to me about everything if it is anything but perfection; and supporting comments from friends and family are not always enough to make it shut up. It tends to just scream louder over them.

It's incredibly insensitive to try and say someone who you don't even know is "just bad at the game" because you cannot sympathize with what it's like to be truly anxious over every little thing. If you ever have suffered from anxiety, well your post says otherwise in its ignorance. If you have, then why don't you try to be a tad more sympathetic towards someone who just came to a forum to share his concerns, and hopefully find someone who can give him some advice that stems from experience with these very same issues.


To OP, ignoring that voice in your head is one of the hardest things to do. But I believe that you can do it. If you have a good support system (i.e., a good static or a good set of friends), then I think they can go a long way to help you in talking down that little voice. Don't give up. Keep trying. Even if you don't believe in yourself right now, your friends do. Let them help you foster that esteem in yourself. Anxiety is really hard, but it can be fought and overcome. Keep trying! I believe in you!

I suffer from the same things you do. I managed to clear Neo in Deltascape, and I'm on God Kefka now in Sigmascape. Keep trying!! It may take several attempts, but keep picking yourself back up. And tell that voice to shove it whenever it starts to scream.

you should stop playing savage then... why people like to be so "drama queen"?

Because sharing one's concerns makes them a drama queen?

Why do people have so little empathy these days... it's incredibly disheartening.


OP, don't listen to posts like this. Pay attention more to the positive advice people are giving you. If you truly want to continue Savage, lean on your support system and listen to them over that annoying little voice. If it ends up causing you too much anxiety in the end, there is no shame in not doing Savage. Recognizing that it would be unhealthy for you is actually very mature, in my opinion. It shows that you know what's best for yourself, and that you want to do what's best for yourself to keep yourself happy and healthy.

[Shizue]

I think you've already found your solution, OP. If you don't enjoy it, don't do it. It's a game and you can play it however you want.

[Shihen]

Why do people have so little empathy these days... it's incredibly disheartening.

I mean, I feel for OP. The guy I've been hopping from MMO to MMO with for over a decade suffers from the same issue, both in-game and out, and it seems like a situation that's almost impossible to get out of. It's affected every aspect of his life and relationships in a negative way and I really wish I could get back the guy I met in middle school.

But there's a time and a place for everything. The general forum is just a discussion board, it's not the drop-off station for personal baggage. I hope OP gets the help he needs, but that journey starts in a therapist's office.

[HyoMinPark]

I mean, I feel for OP. The guy I've been hopping from MMO to MMO with for over a decade suffers from the same issue, both in-game and out, and it seems like a situation that's almost impossible to get out of. It's affected every aspect of his life and relationships in a negative way and I really wish I could get back the guy I met in middle school.

But there's a time and a place for everything. The general forum is just a discussion board, it's not the drop-off station for personal baggage. I hope OP gets the help he needs, but that journey starts in a therapist's office.

I have to respectfully disagree. Sometimes it is easier for people to post their concerns anonymously on a discussion forum. The anonymity makes the admission easier, and the idea of being able to participate in conversation whenever you want can also appeal to those who are introverted, rather than a face-to-face session with a therapist. Therapy isn't always effective, especially if a person is uncomfortable with face-to-face. Some therapists also seem less interested in helping and more interested in their paycheck. Not saying the OP has been in these situations, but I went to one who was more concerned with the money they could make off of me, and which drug they could push on me.

I think the journey starts with just reaching out to someone; not necessarily someone who is a therapist. Friends or family or even strangers on a forum that OP thinks can help them think things through. Doesn't have to be a paid professional.

I don't know what OP's reasons were, but it could be that he lurks on the OF (not posting often, but just reading) and thought people here could help him if he reached out for it. Or he felt like this was an easier place to talk about his problems because of the anonymity. I can appreciate that. I made a thread a year ago when I was going through something very hard, and I am grateful for the responses I got. They helped me cope a lot more than the people realize, I'm sure. It was also just nice to get it out, and the OF just happened to be my outlet of choice.

[Shihen]

I think the journey starts with just reaching out to someone; not necessarily someone who is a therapist. Friends or family or even strangers on a forum that OP thinks can help them think things through. Doesn't have to be a paid professional.

I don't know what OP's reasons were, but it could be that he lurks on the OF (not posting often, but just reading) and thought people here could help him if he reached out for it. Or he felt like this was an easier place to talk about his problems because of the anonymity. I can appreciate that. I made a thread a year ago when I was going through something very hard, and I am grateful for the responses I got.

Yeah, I guess that makes sense. Hopefully this works out the same way.