I did not participate in the 3.3 Launch, because, well, I didn’t have enough money for a house at the time so why bother. But a friend of mine did. She was after Plot 11/41 in the Lavender Beds (i.e., The God-Tier Medium plot). She gets in relatively fast (Cactuar was still pretty mid-pop back then, not as large as it is nowadays), but sadly, all 8 of that specific plot were already gone. Her response? “I didn’t get THAT PLOT, and now I’m quitting the game!!!” We, her friends, managed to convince her to stay, and even tried to tell her there was a medium near the house of the FC that I was currently in (we presented this as a great time for us to all be neighbors, since she was in a different FC from us and didn’t want to leave it because she liked it). We had to spend
several hours convincing her to at least take
another medium plot (I want to place the emphasis on “
medium” here—we weren’t even asking her to settle for a
small, but
another medium), even though it wasn’t the one she originally wanted.
Come Shirogane’s announcement at Fanfest. She decides to let her nice medium in the Beds auto-demolish, because she wanted to get a house (specifically a mansion) in Shirogane, and they had not yet announced the idea of relocation (as far as I recall they had not, anyways). We, her friends, tried to convince her to wait/think about it for a little bit (especially given the way she reacted after not getting Plot 11/41) because we knew there was a chance she may end up without a house at all, but she didn’t want to, so she let her plot auto-demolish for 80% of the cost.
Shirogane gets closer, and launches in a spectacular disaster. She managed to get in with no errors, but was 900+ in queue, and by then, all the mansions were gone (apparently there were still a few mediums left, but mostly smalls?—I can’t back this up by more than just my friend’s hearsay, because I had a faulty/unresponsive launcher, 2 lobby server errors, a 90k, and was 1,600+ in the queue). Her response again? “I didn’t get the house I wanted! I’m quitting the game!” We tried to convince her to buy another plot so that she could try to relocate in the future (since this would at least be something: she wouldn’t have the plot she wanted, but she would at least have a
Shirogane house, which she really wanted to have a house there), but she refused. We spend
more hours convincing her not to quit the game, especially after Yoshida announced they would be adding more Wards.
Finally comes this housing release. Sometime between the 3.3 and 4.1 housing releases, she had branched off from her old FC and started her own, so for 4.2 she was looking to get one for her FC (I think she had intended for the 4.1 house to be an FC one as well, but I’m not sure; she still really wanted a personal house at that time). However, she was unaware of the rules surrounding alt characters in FCs, and one of our friends had an alt in her FC back from when she was first getting it started, while his main was the master of another FC. She tried to buy a plot, and it wouldn’t let her (because of the restriction on alts). Meanwhile, myself and another friend had celebrated that we had managed to get some houses—I just posted a simple comment in our shared LS of “I got a mansion for my FC!

” and that was it. I didn’t know until a few seconds later that she had been unsuccessful in her attempts.
After I figured out what the problem was, I tried to tell her what she could do to remedy it (all she had to do was just kick the alt and she would have been golden). But, by then, all the Shirogane mansions were gone. I proceeded then to tell her “There are tons of mansions everywhere else; I know they aren’t Shiro, but try to get one and you can always relocate to Shirogane later on”. I suggested the Lavender Beds, because there was very little competition there at the time for mansions, and it’s still a very nice area that I knew she also liked. Well, she wasn’t hearing any of that. Some more back and forth between us, and she has subsequently blocked me on Discord and Facebook, and is no longer wanting to be friends with me. Because I “just didn’t understand”, was “rubbing it in her face” that I had managed to get a house, and I “knew how much she wanted a mansion in Shirogane” and that she “didn’t want to settle for anything else”. By the way, we had been friends since 2011–way before either of us were playing FFXIV.
This is where my issue lies: the way my friend acted was so terribly entitled, that I am finding a hard time having sympathy for her, especially after she turned on me for just simply saying ONCE in the LS that I managed to get a house. I feel similarly towards a lot of the comments I see here about the housing, too—
It really sucks when you don’t get the plot you want. I know that; I’ve been there. But I still think that at least owning a house gives you a leg-up/an advantage later on, especially with the new relocation feature added. It may not be ideal, but, for me personally, if the choice is between “not having a house” and “not having my dream house but still at least having one”, I would take the latter. I also think a better response is “We should advocate for increased numbers of larges/mediums” rather than “Take away the larges/mediums from the people that relocated because I want their plot”.
However, I realize not everyone is me, nor do I think they should all think how I do. That being said, I just wish people would at least consider alternatives.