Didn't think I'd be posting in this thread again so soon, but wow.
Expert Roulette dropped me into Kugane Castle with a DRK, BRD, and RDM. DRK and BRD came together; pleasantries were exchanged and we were off.
DRK started dropping
really fast, so I inspected his gear -- no problems there. I only realised into the second pull that he wasn't using Grit. I don't have a problem with this, but I was running low on MP, even after using Lucid Dream and extending it with Celestial Opposition.
So I asked him to put up Grit, and the following occurred:
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DRK is blue, BRD is red, and RDM is purple.
He threatened to shirk us for my request, and actually shirked the RDM later on. During the first boss, he moved to stand in both bomb AoEs dropped by the Harakiri adds, apparently planning to kill himself. The vote kick went through after the encounter ended, with no deaths, amazingly. We got another tank shortly after, and the run went fine.
I don't think I was being rude, but this guy responded to me like I had told him he was a scrub. His friend (BRD) later commented that he wanted the BRD to document the conversation, because he thought the dismissal was unfair. I don't know. I consider threats of shirking, and intentional play sabotage, to be worthy of a kick.
He said he wouldn't tell us how to do our jobs, but told me and the RDM what to do. :P