Tales from Duty Finder: Some make you laugh, some make you cry. Let's vent.

[Lilseph]

Don't lump all people in the same boat or you will help create a crueller world. Just because there is this example doesn't mean you should think the same of others.

Plenty of bad experiences led me to take that decision. I've DF'd a lot since then, met lots and lots of people and, usually, advice is either ignored or bad received. So if I make a balance, it's not worth it. I just bite the bullet and run through it. It's no use to waste your energy anymore. I usually DF with my GF as well, she still helps and, most of the time, the advice is ignored. Is it good to act like that? Probably not, but I decided to go in DF so I know the risks. This way, my runs through said system became less stressing, thank God.

Sometimes your people are not on to queue up with them.

[Amelia_Pond_Behemoth]

Don't lump all people in the same boat or you will help create a crueller world. Just because there is this example doesn't mean you should think the same of others.

Just a few pages back there was a screencap of a WHM who lacked a ton of their quest skills. They were more receptive to correcting the issue.

[Carvaka]

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You didn't die and no wipes? Seems ok to me, I would have let them go.

[DaikiKiyoshi]

@ Miste - I would have kicked her after she claimed she was being attacked. Ain't got no time for stupidity like that.

[Aramina]

DF giveth and DF taketh away... though for my stories maybe it should be taketh away and then giveth... but either way....

Still levelling my alt (almost 58 now!!)

First the bad: Sohm Al. We manage to wipe on the 2nd boss because the green thing didn't die fast enough. I think I was probably the only one attacking it and I will be honest here, I didn't even know this was a "you are probably going to die" thing because in 2 years I have never ever ever seen that thing explode. Learn something new all the time I suppose. Last boss... oh dear lord the last boss. Tank explains fight (he had explained the 2nd one too, so I dunno why I thought we would be fine here). Anyway... first Marker goes out, DPS gets 2 explosions to the face and dies. First AoE, DPS2 stands in it and dies. And that was pretty much the whole fight... one or the other (or sometimes both) died to every.single.mechanic. I have never had to res so much in my life. In retrospect, we probably would have finished faster if I just left them dead and dpsed the boss instead of ressing but I had this wild hope after MULTIPLE deaths to the same mechanic they would finally learn to.. you know.. do the mechanic.

Now the good: Both Aery and The Vault went off without a hitch. People put there thing on the statues on the 2nd boss of Aery. People broke us out of Sable. People killed the adds fast enough for Estinien to shield us, etc etc. People didn't get hit with orbs on the first boss of Vault. People didn't take massive vuln stacks on the second boss. People killed the fire orbs and didn't stand in poop and broke chains on the last boss. It was grand.

It's just all very amusing to me because Sohm Al has always been something I don't even think about in terms of difficulty and both The Aery and The Vault can be very sketch at times... but for this alt it was the opposite.

[Miste]

You didn't die and no wipes? Seems ok to me, I would have let them go.

If she had gotten a tank who wasn't max sync level, wasn't max sync geared, or wasn't efficient with defensive cooldowns, or if the DPS was slower then that tank would have died with her spamming Benefics in Cleric Stance. So...I was trying to help her for her future runs before SB hits.

There is always someone who will say it is fine because no one died....you are missing the point and you don't understand the issue with a healer constantly trying to heal a tank with Cleric Stance on. Maybe in the Aery it didn't kill me even though it almost did (I was max level for the instance and max geared since I was sync'd down from a level 60 i268 PLD)...but if she doesn't listen to me then when she gets a less skilled/geared tank and/or less skilled DPS who kill mobs too slowly the tank will die if they keep leaving Cleric Stance on when healing.

It isn't about "letting someone go" I was trying to offer her help and advice as an experienced player, but her, like many others, consider help as an attack. I rarely say anything to people in-game anymore unless asked because everyone just gets their knickers in a twist as soon as you mention anything they are doing even if you are just trying to help them.

[Faliandra]

@ Miste - I would have kicked her after she claimed she was being attacked. Ain't got no time for stupidity like that.

the problem is that there was one person defending the bad healer. That person may have queued up with the healer together...so even initiating a votekick usually results in rejection.

Real baddies tend to queue up together to make it harder to kick them out. And even the few randoms who are not with the baddie usually dont wanna "waste time" by kicking baddies.

thats the real problem there. people dont wanna kick others.


I recently got harassed real bad for no reason by some guy in a11n that I joined to help a returning friend...and people refused to kick that guy at first. Like seriously, what is wrong with people.
And then he would keep going and only after the third time that i initiated a votekick, people finally agreed to it.

(ah, and btw, it was me, the healer, who had to LB3 everyone, just to have everyone die again, ressing half the party again,just to have them die AGAIN duo'ing the boss down when he had 5% left together with the main tank, who ended up dying then too when the boss still had 1%, so I finished it off on my own and got quite a few comms for it. So I really couldnt have been nearly as bad and useless like I was called by the guy who harassed me.)

[Vidu]

Real baddies tend to queue up together to make it harder to kick them out. And even the few randoms who are not with the baddie usually dont wanna "waste time" by kicking baddies.

People also dont want to get into arguments - a friend of mine hates it when I start giving advice or correcting people because most of the time they react more like that healer there: getting all defensive (even with me being really polite). As long as you dont wipe a lot of people mind an argument more than someone playing really, really badly. They dont want to sit around for 2 minutes, having someone give advice to another person because that feels like wasting time - they rather spend 20 minutes longer in the dungeon because someone really, really cant play...
I'll never understand how people can be okay with that

[Faliandra]

People also dont want to get into arguments - a friend of mine hates it when I start giving advice or correcting people because most of the time they react more like that healer there: getting all defensive (even with me being really polite). As long as you dont wipe a lot of people mind an argument more than someone playing really, really badly. They dont want to sit around for 2 minutes, having someone give advice to another person because that feels like wasting time - they rather spend 20 minutes longer in the dungeon because someone really, really cant play...
I'll never understand how people can be okay with that

me neither. its completely contradicting anyway. they cry about wasting a potential 2 minutes they would have to wait for a replacement when a better replacement could save them 10mins+ in the long run.

Beats me. especially when you can just keep going even if 1 person is missing. you may just have to be a bit more careful about it.



which is why i usually queue up with a friend....so we get 2 free votekicks by default if we get issues with real bad defensive players.

[Vidu]

me neither. its completely contradicting anyway. they cry about wasting a potential 2 minutes they would have to wait for a replacement when a better replacement could save them 10mins+ in the long run.

Beats me.

Not only about waiting for a replacment but more than once I ended up in situations when I felt if I just had the time to sit down for a minute and explain to someone why they have to do something without getting rushed or harrassed or told "just let them play how they want", it would do so much good and safe the intact group time already!

The whole Cleric Stance situation for example: I'm not saying that Miste wasnt doing a good job or anything, but sometimes a more detailed explantion can do the trick (as in: explaining that cleric stance switches the stats, asking the healer to check for themself, ask them to heal once with stance and once without...) - that healer might have been to stubborn to do that, but as I said... I often feel very rushed to even give a short explantion or even just an advice without the insight and detail that would be required to understand WHY I'm giving that advice (because as soon as I would try and type that explantion the dragoon has run off, pulled the next set of mobs and the bard told me to shut up and just let the healer do their thing because "no one has died" - yes... thanks to hallowed ground...)