Sorry character limit lol
It varies by server. I'm a mentor and I'll let you know it's discouraging when people think a crown is an easy ticket. Here is why;
I.The majority of player have their own style and unless they have experience in life mentoring/supervising/a bit of common sense it makes it a great challenge.
II.Majority of players think they know everything and are close minded to advice or tips. They take suggestions as a negative comment and are too delicate. ( I blame society for wanting to give everyone a trophy for just trying )
III. People who take mentor status 60%-80% mainly do it for the bonus.
IV. Human nature dictates " Knowledge is power, and power drives a man Mad" Players depend more on visual aspects than actual experience. They don't want to admit fault or take responsibility for their actions being that in their own little world they are right everyone else is wrong.
Solution:
I.Your Stall is the sprout LS that you can join and ask help.
II. Communicate most Mentors will help and have patience if people actually ask for help.
III. Accept the fact that there are trolls out there.
IV. Make a connection on well known Mentors and have them as a friend or LS. If you can't find one at random ask for assistance.
Overall; Communication is the key. Players pay their monthly fee so are free to play however they like. Just like in life, people have a very weird concept of what common sense is and fail to take responsibility. You can only be an innocent bystander or help in your own way.
As a personal tip;
Find an LS or FC that has a decent reputation. (tank or healer community mainly)
Black list people who leave or are just trolls.
Party with people who you trust and rotate roles to get things done right away.
Be realistic, unlike FFXI this game is designed to allow players to solo play more, yet the world isn't perfect.
If you have experience and your explanations make sense speak up in a friendly way. You will notice that when things go south people can turn the tide by speaking up and taking a chance.