I feel you. I do. But, you don't get to decide what the norm is. The community sets it, and the community has spoken. Speedrunners are the norm, so if you want to farm chests, set up a PF.

Just like if you wanted to watch all the cutscenes in Castrum. The community norm in DF is to skip, so set up a PF if you want to go against the grain.

It's not griefing just because you are the outlier.