Any other dejected healers?

[Rinari]

As a Tank, I always appreciate my healer! Without heals, I'm the first one to die.

I'm not sure if I miss in-game DPS meters yet or not. In WoW, it's common for people to blast out meters after every boss kill and shame DPS on the low end. Sometimes it even happens with healing as well (HPS). I do miss the feedback. That data is extremely useful in adjusting rotations, but I don't miss the added drama at all.

[Urthdigger]

There are unofficial damage parsers that people use to gauge their performance, though shaming isn't done very commonly unless someone is MASSIVELY under performing.

[DJMau]

There are unofficial damage parsers that people use to gauge their performance, though shaming isn't done very commonly unless someone is MASSIVELY under performing.

And one can generally tell that without resorting to a parser if they're observant enough. (Ex: Not using BotD, Heavy thrust, Ice Mages, etc...)

[dragonseth07]

And one can generally tell that without resorting to a parser if they're observant enough. (Ex: Not using BotD, Heavy thrust, Ice Mages, etc...)

Yeah, but sometimes it's not obvious. It's little things that add up to a huge difference. Parsers just have that added clarity so there's no guesswork.

[Average-Joe]

To answer the titular question, no. As a healer, I, alongside the tank, expect to take flak when something goes wrong that can be blamed on me. I also expect to give the DPS/Tank flak if they're not performing their role sufficiently.
If a group is being obnoxious and unfair, I blacklist the troublemakers and move on. Otherwise I understand that it is in my best interest to be a beacon of tolerance, wisdom, and care in the party. The tank may steer us, but the healer's the one really running the show - with all of the responsibility that comes with. Even babysitting derps, and dealing with jerks.

[winsock]

...this game worships dps and spits on it's healers no matter what.

I may be the only who feels this way but I'm quite tired of being blamed for every one elses mistakes, dealing with huge pulls, and other players acting like a healer is obligated to do what their told.

Just some food for thought, healers aren't the only ones this happens to.

When tanking you might perform the same large pull (let's say main scenario) hundreds of times without issue.... Only to be critisized by a healer who is operating the cannons instead of tossing you the 1 heal you might need...
Pull slow and you will irritate most of the party.

Not everyone is going to have the same outlook, just do your best to accommodate your party!