Marriage Partner Hookup Megathread!

[Archaell]

I don't really blame players who use the game as their dating site - there are way too many stories about game relationships turning into RL ones. No, it's not common, it's insanely rare. Yet desperate people do desperate things. Ironically if they were not pushing so hard maybe they actually could achieve what they are looking for.

It's important to understand that the game isn't a single player game. It's a multiplayer game. As such the RL is bound to more or less affect the in-game interactions. There are also many steps between the in-game and RL. Some players consider RL anything that is outside the game - for example chat/facebook/skype etc. - while others may think that only face to face interactions are considered RL.

Now for the proving your RL sex thing... I don't understand the issue. If you admit you are male/female then where is the harm to say few words over the voice chat? (There might be unrelated issues - for example my pronunciation sux so I am in no hurry to talk over voice chats ^^ - but in my opinion it's better to be honest about the cause of your behavior). It may be just a game, but we need to consider people's feelings. Trust is a really nice thing, but the uncertainty could potentially harm the relationship - people are naturally and rightfully afraid that others on the Internet could lie to them. Imagine that you would develop feelings for a person and then found out that they are not what they said or what you thought they were - be it sex, age or whatever - that could be devastating and so it's fine to limit the risk of this. I doubt that anyone would be happy to find out that their supposedly middle-aged male eRP partner was an underage girl iRL etc.

So yeah, we have to be careful when dealing with people's feelings and the more honest you can be (and the less doubt there is about what you say) the better.

[MeiUshu]

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I agree with you with a small BUT (huge)........there is a difference between DEMANDING as in I DEMAND OF YOU and THINGS HAPPENING over time.

My personal situation : I have discord, I dont use it at all or so rarely that is even annoying and not even in voice or only with some chosen people, but when you demand stuff from someone, there is already a biaised start in the Relationship, you dont even know the person and want to right away hear her voice ? who said I have to abid by your (General your) DEMAND, who are you to command me in that way ? see my point? Besides to me, voice is already having a tie in RL, I am not comfortable in doing it right away, am I not entitled to it ? Shouldnt that be respected to ? I believe people put demands on others and expect them to be met right away without really considering the other person feelings you know, it doesnt work that way in any Relationship it doesnt work that way ever, in my opinion.

I, personally, dont need a proof from anyone that they are who they are but equally I take the chance to be lied upon and mislead. I dont want to have demands put on me that the moment they are not met I automatically become bad, this goes for voice AND ERP and yep both situations happened to me. Demand ERP and demand voice in the name of what ? and yeah it exists.

I know ERP (in-game and even demands for ERP in voice) happens but not on whim (how many I Had to slap back in place) as I said to someone I am not a rabbit nor a cat in need you know, I know voice happens and yep it would..but not when you demand it.

Should we ask a copy of the ID too to be sure that we are not dealing with a minor? Wouldnt that make more sense then hearing a voice ? Never seen this happen though. When is it too much and when is too little ?

in short DEMANDING anything from anyone is just plain wrong. You are on internet you know you can be lied to. I cant count how many times people have lied to me but is not like I didnt know or better said wasnt prepare to it, whoever is wearing pink glasses is surely going in front of a desilusion and a high one, if you want to protect yourself, then dont try to have relationships and more so trying to start a Relationship on line to be brought over in IRL, sure you could meet in IRL just to see the face but unless you have been working hard and very hard at it for a long time, is only a virtual Relationship with a small tie in RL that is called friendship or acquaintance.

Bah....this being said I still look for that one....(Yeah I like dreams..).....