Tank politics go like this:
- Tanks: set the pace, but at the same they should not take unnecessary pauses. Stay in front, be aware of everyone, and keep the group moving forward. Also, don't assume it's okay to pull big.
- Healer: is second banana. If they can handle healing large pulls, they can give the go-ahead to the tank to kick it into overdrive. Otherwise, let the tank do his job.
- DPS: should stfu and prioritize whatever the tank is focused on or whatever is dying the most. Follow the parameters set by the tank and healer. Don't pull, don't do knockbacks, don't fall behind. If a dps person deliberately pulls aggro, tank should let them deal with it. Tank priority is to hold and stabilize their mobs, not risk more chaos from chasing and cleaning up after clueless pullers.