Having issues with socializing with people

[Yawnie]

I'd tell you to join me and my friends FC since its very small and my two friends and I constantly run things together as we're really close knit. Buuuut its quite a leap to suddenly transfer. Just make sure its something you really want. You can always make an alt and see how that goes. Either way if you ever want to try and meet new friends we'll be here!

[DarkSlayerGrimm]

Aw man I get you OP I understand wanting to get up and leave to another server to at least find a decent group of ppl to play with. I'm on a large pop server and I got a FC that sorta likes having me around, sure I jump at the chance to tank or heal a dungeon when a fc mate needs 1 but that doesnt feel accepting no matter how many times i do it i'm still not part of "that" group in the FC I'm not a raider nor a crafter so I understand that "i always felt like i was on the background of everything" feeling

I'm not sure how long you've been on that server but from experience it does suck to have that "I'm not happy on this server" feeling after logging in, I would say if you are running a dungeon or in a trial and things slow down maybe say Hi and ask what servers everyones on if you feel like it, I've met quite a few fun ppl in crystal tower and have a few good ideas of where I might transfer to. I wish you luck OP

[Quasihemdem]

Mind if I ask what server you are on? I have a very small fc. 3 people exactly. If you need a place to feel like home. Come on over to adamontoise. As far as the autism goes, I completely understand it. My daughter is. (high end)

[Krovius]

If you ever try Siren server come to meeeee! I to struggle a bit with socializing but I do the best that I can. Especially if I voice chat...I can be super awkward. lol But I would def welcome you with open arms and I have a few friends who would do the same! Best of luck to you and I hope you find that forever in game home! <3

[Dolandukk]

Hey sad to hear this i have a nice FC you could join that are very welcoming and social also should join my server if you'd like to play if you ever need a place to talk or someone to talk to you could join my teamspeak if you want i'm very friendly and welcoming and i have no boundaries really so i really don't mind what you say to me and as always have a good one bud

[CrystalRainbow]

This is a ONLINE GAME.... PEOPLE don't socializing.

You need Real life contact for that. It doesn't happen online.....


I have 3 LS and fc the FC core members are in 2 of the 3 LSes. So ya I socialize and setup events from time to time.

[AlexanderThorolund]

This is a ONLINE GAME.... PEOPLE don't socializing.

You need Real life contact for that. It doesn't happen online.....

Not true, one guy I met on FFXIV I now work with, go out to the pub with and am really good friends with.

It does happen, however you can't wait for such interactions to come to you, you need to go out into your server and talk to people. Which takes confidence, I know. However with anything anxiety related, the more you do it the less anxious you will be doing it.

It's all about that first initial jump into what you view as the void, but ends up being your rebirth!

[Noxifer]

This is a ONLINE GAME.... PEOPLE don't socializing.

You need Real life contact for that. It doesn't happen online.....

Can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not.

Yes, online socializing can be just as exhausting or anxiety-inducing as real life socializing.

For me, it's exhausting, but not to the degree that real life socializing is, primarily because I can interrupt it at any time I need to, going "brb" or "afk for a bit" or "sorry, need to do stuff, bbl", and people won't look at me weirdly for it. With real life socializing, the only "brb" I can do is to go home. Or kick people out if they're visiting (with the added social stress of 'how do I kick people out politely?'). Or, if it's people I know well and who know my issues, take a break and go bury myself in a book for a while and ignore the people around me (sometimes even going to a separate room to do so). But that's not something I can readily do with people I know less well.
Online socializing doesn't need to be planned to the same degree; I don't have to figure out how to get to my friends, or when they have time to come over, or how much I need to clean my apartment before they do. I can just sit down by my PC, log on, and say hi to the people who are there. And I can socialize in as big or small chunks as I can handle. =)

(It's also less exhausting because I can take a little bit longer to interpret what people are saying; it doesn't have to happen in real time. And if there are mistakes in my interpretation, people will happily explain what they DID mean and not look at me like I'm stupid for not automatically understanding because their body language should have told me what it meant. Doesn't work for people with body language dyslexia xD)

[NessaWyvern]

Tell people you are female IRL, for some reason it makes people talk to you more, and help you with stuff more D:

[Yawnie]

Tell people you are female IRL, for some reason it makes people talk to you more, and help you with stuff more D:

LMAO
Why did this make me laugh so hard :c