Patience as a Tank

[Enkonda]

I honestly never thought of telling someone to stop pulling mobs as more of a pride thing IMO, if I don't believe I can pull what you think I can pull, I probably can't pull it. I can't say I'd kick someone just for continually pulling mobs, though. I would instead, click off Shield Oath and replace it with Sword Oath and dps and then there'll just be a party with two dps and one low-tier dps with a large amount of vitality, and a confused healer who's probably trying to figure out why the dps think they're the tanks. I actually can't say I've had this happen to me more than once.

I can only recall one instance where I was running Copperbell (sic?) NM and the healer (out of all people) began to pull mobs. I'm sure it wasn't because they were making sure I didn't miss patrolling enemies...I was 100% positive that I was going to get them as soon as they came into range. I wasn't mad, though. I'm not going to say "hey, can you stop pulling mobs." Why? It's obvious that the mentality of a majority of the Final Fantasy 14's community is that everyone sports this game 24/7 and that you should be the best player in the world or at least good enough so that you don't hamper anyone else's playstyle. That's when people in dungeons get mad at when you aren't following the pace set by the Tank. Tank going to slow? "They're making this dungeon take longer than it needs to" *proceeds to pull as a squishy BLM*. Tank not doing what I believe they should be doing? Goes into Sensei mode and tries to lecture the tank (and ends up being wrong 90% of the time).

What I'm saying as that, I created this post in the shiny veil of unappreciated tanks who are very patient, endearing, and tolerant of the kind of scenarios given here today in this thread by this forum's patrons. Hopefully anyone who's either transitioning into a tank, having tanking be your first class, or just have been putting off for one reason or another will see this thread and take heed of the important topics discussed and/or continued discussions.