TL;DR of live letter

[Kallera]

There is a difference, but that difference is not important in this context. In one situation a person is hand-holding and telling you what to do and another a computer program is. The difference is who is doing the work, but to you there is no difference. Either way you have the mechanic warned for you, so that you don't have to worry about it yourself. In both situations, you have equal amount of hand-holding.

I very much have to worry about it, I don't want that sort of thing in every encounter, and I don't want it forced on me to have it. I do not need to have the person doing so, and i can choose to not have it, I refuse an add on, and I'm likely to be removed from even learning parties.

I don't want add ons getting thrown in my face over every bit of playing.