I'm sorry for your friend's passing, but at least it sounds like a peaceful end(I hope I go in my sleep). As for the topic the previous poster referenced, this is it if you would like to look through it for suggestions, or to add your likes/reply to support the larger thread so the devs hopefully see it.

http://forum.square-enix.com/ffxiv/t...-player-statue

I would also caution that this is a sensitive topic, and many people, as you can see in that thread, do not respond well to it(myself included, honestly). So I do also ask that you please try to respect those who are here to escape reality instead of dwell on the unfortunate aspects of it.

Hopefully the devs will introduce something fair and neutral eventually, to allow some players to remember their friends and family without upsetting others.