Is it WRONG to pick up girls in a dungeon? ^_^

[WinterLuna]

I didn't get picked up in a dungeon but I met my boyfriend on FFXIV (I live in the UK, he lives in the US) and we've flew out to see eachother. I'm visiting him again in May. So in short.. no, it's not wrong to pick up girls in dungeons!

As long as you're not creepy about it hehehe.

[LordNickage]

Sometimes I flirt with my fiance while we run a dungeon. Then I reach across the couch to high five her and lose aggro on something. It's a beautiful thing.

[Kosmos992k]

Sarcastic comment, nothing serious.

You'd be surprised how many people think girls don't play games.

...and by how many assume that every pretty female character is actually a girl player who is just dying to be chatted up by some lonely gamer dude who supposes that every pretty female avatar is somehow reflective of the real player....

I didn't get picked up in a dungeon but I met my boyfriend on FFXIV (I live in the UK, he lives in the US) and we've flew out to see eachother. I'm visiting him again in May. So in short.. no, it's not wrong to pick up girls in dungeons!

As long as you're not creepy about it hehehe.

Grats, sometimes meeting online works, sometimes it works very, very well and sometimes it becomes the stuff of legend (not always a good thing). People often make all sorts of assumptions when you reveal how you met, but you can have fun disproving the assumptions year after year...

In my case, it worked extremely well, the resulting marriage has been going strong for more than a decade.

[Iagainsti]

Sarcastic comment, nothing serious.

You'd be surprised how many people think girls don't play games.

I figured, more or less my general reaction than directly pointed at you ;D

Especially men with female avatars being a normal occurrence, these same players reaction when they find out the player behind the male avatar is a girl can be summed up in this unfortunately:



Smh everytime

[WinterLuna]

...and by how many assume that every pretty female character is actually a girl player who is just dying to be chatted up by some lonely gamer dude who supposes that every pretty female avatar is somehow reflective of the real player....

Edit: Misread the post - but also thank you - congrats to you too and I'm glad everything worked out great

[Andrea]

...a girl player who is just dying to be chatted up by some lonely gamer dude

Been there before lol.

[Jpec07]

Only if she explicitly asks to be picked up, and doing so won't hurt your performance. It can be hard to do your job when you're holding a girl off the ground.

In seriousness, don't. If the girl avatar is a girl player, chances are she is in the instance to do what she needs to and get out. If you start making advances, you will probably sour her mood, and the entire encounter. Also, if you should decide to not heed my advice, make sure that you treat her with respect, and remember that she owes you nothing more than adequate performance in the role she queued as.

[Krissey]

Been there before lol.

ey gurl ey wink wink sup how u doin?

[Kosmos992k]

This thread is just a bit of fun, I'm sure that's happened countless times but then you just blacklist them and ignore them. If you're a dude irl, they try chatting you up and they're not gay, jokes on them. ^^

I'll happily tell anyone my real gender (hint: I'm 100% less female, pretty and blue-haired than Kosmos) - if asked.

I'm a bad person though; if someone starts something, and doesn't take a swift, "no" or "leave me a lone please", I'll just let them flail around and make a fool of them self. No need to add to their load by Rick Rolling them too.

However, I play alongside my wife (uh-oh, gave away my gender...maybe) in FFXIV, and we used to play in White Knight Chronicles together as well, I always play as Kosmos, I can't imagine playing another character really. But I've seen many cases of people just assuming something about my character or my wife's (she also plays a female Miqo'te - Hinagiku), and I've spoken to several female friends who play this and/ other games on this topic, they all have plenty of stories to tell as well.

So I don't feel that bad.

[WinterLuna]

But I've seen many cases of people just assuming something about my character or my wife's (she also plays a female Miqo'te - Hinagiku), and I've spoken to several female friends who play this and/ other games on this topic, they all have plenty of stories to tell as well.

So I don't feel that bad.

Yeah, I admit the assumptions are really stupid. There's literally no way to tell what gender a player is (even the extent of getting to know them and seeing photos could be a potential catfish). I find it kind of funny how people don't realise that by now.

My boyfriend and I were basically best friends before we became partners, so there was never that awkward questioning, but I imagine it's annoying. The other side is people just assuming female characters are men in real life, but I usually play along as I have nothing to prove to anyone. ^^