Marriage Partner Hookup Megathread!

[Twilite]

I know what you mean, I haven't been through the ceremony yet. Daren't go through it either, not until my mate of like 5+ years comes to FFXIV. Since I know she can handle all the crap I deal with (and seemingly cause too).

They all failed mostly because communication was poor. I don't have a 'mate' either. Talking with someone about anything and doing things together I guess is a fantasy. I focused too much on it. Communication is important though. Nothing will last without it.

[Paladinleeds]

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Yeah, my friend will be new, but I'm planning to run through the content with her and help her level up, I think she's gonna be levelling a DPS class though, so that means my AST is my next 60! I met her originally on World of Warcraft, she's become good friends with me, and has become friends with some of my other friends and is planning to come and study in the UK. I don't expect this ceremony to fall over. She's been through my meltdowns, she's been through my darkest times, and she's stuck by me through it all. She's a true friend through and through. That's what I want out of the ceremony. The amount of FC's I've been in (and almost left my current one due to my contentious and conflictive attitude), means I can't trust anyone through this thread. Just too risky for me.

[Bixillarla]

Hey everyone, completed the Eternal Bond quest and have a date set, we don't have a ton of friends to invite so since we met through this posting would like to invite you all to the ceremony. It will be on Jenova this Sunday at 7am server time. Just send me a tell in game and mention this thread and ill friend you and send you the invitation.

The happy couple:

[Bixillarla]

Lol my eb partner is gone. We played together for like 3 1/2 weeks and then they got bored with the game. xD

aww so sorry.

[Malicewolf]

Server: Gilgamesh (though thinking of going to goblin)

Wooo, more goblin love needs to happen <3 There's not many of us here on the forums ._. (one of us! one of us!)

They all failed mostly because communication was poor. I don't have a 'mate' either. Talking with someone about anything and doing things together I guess is a fantasy. I focused too much on it. Communication is important though. Nothing will last without it.

Shame, but not everyone is looking for what constitutes a real life bond. They're looking for an ingame bond that they can severe whenever they feel like it. Basically, a no strings attached kind of deal. Not saying everyone is like this. But a majority are. I know that if I do an EB, I am not looking for that. Yes. It would be fantastic to have a good friend to play with whenever I'm online and to talk to (but then again, I already have an entire FC for that since most of us are rl friends), but I wouldn't expect them to devote the same level of commitment as a real life relationship.

Look for a friend first. Then look for more afterwards if things look up. Basically, same thing you should do in a real life relationship. Sometimes people hit it off immediately and everything works out just fine. Majority of the time, after a month, you realize, you've talked about all the things that were "new" and now it's time to determine; is this person actually interesting and keeps my attention, or do I now find them boring and unamusing...

[RukiaFae]

Never realized people take this so seriously and are looking for an in game relationship.

[Twilite]

Never realized people take this so seriously and are looking for an in game relationship.

Yeah I know that's directed towards me. I think people tend to read too deeply into what I say in this thread. It's pretty common that one will think I'm looking for more. I don't talk about my first EB partner often, but she was my best friend in game. We did everything and talked about everything, and not just game related. There was no "romance". I know the difference between friendships and relationships and associations. I'm tired of being treated like an associate. She provided me with what I was looking for, and unfortunately, I lost that. Perhaps karma is not done punishing me.

Eternal Bonding isn't just for in game relationships - yes people have found love through this thread. However, a lot of us, myself included are looking for the same thing YOU'RE looking for. The thing is, friendships are no different from relationships in the important aspects. There's gotta be communication, and let's not forget that you still have to click. We also have to put up with each other's bad ways which could sour it, if not kept in check.

I'm sorry to say but running content with someone over and over is *not* the same thing if there NO connection between the two. Ya don't know me, but I've been through it all. I've befriended people that I just couldn't click with. Putting up with their silence for WEEKS before giving up on them. I take solace in the fact that I give people chances. If I want to be your friend, I'm GOING to pursue it.

[Makoto_Tayuun]

Server: Balmung
Willing to transfer? Sadly not
Personal Interests: Gaming, reading, anime, movies.
Play schedule: GMT based evenings if worked that day from 6pm onwards. if no work then all day
What kind of gamer are you: used to be hardcore now casual
Character Gender: female (male irl)
Do you care if the player in real life is not the same gender as their character? would prefer a female but RPing is a thing!
Character Race: Midlander Hyur (can change to miqo'te, Au'Ra or even Elezen)
Preferred Race: Hyur, Miqo'te, Au'Ra or Elezen females.
Main class?: AST
Dislikes: lack of communication, try hards, big headed people.
Goals for the game: to have fun and do some content
Goals for the marriage union: same as above to have fun and do content!
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[SerenityMacMorgain]

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Twilite, what server are you on? If you're a fan of role playing and aren't averse to transferring I might be able to help you find a friend =)

[Plouxx]

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The amount of truth from this hurts. :x

Like you said - when you run out of things to say and sit there trying to force yourself to find something to talk about is... not really good.
If conversations flow freely then you found a good thing going for you! :>