"Huge lack of tanks and healers in the game"

[dekal]

The thing is he doesn't say it he just leave. If he were saying crap about the crappy performance of the other players then it ll add to the sum up of the df attitude.

When I know I won't be able to handle ppl "relaxing" and playing as whatever, I just don't say anything and leave as soon as I can. If they talk shit and we are going to the next mob, I just leave right in front the nob or wait until I'm done with the mob. That is not adding. That is just result/consequence of those ppl bad attitude.

[Eye_Gore]

That is just result/consequence of those ppl bad attitude.

The thing also is this. So one person starts talking smack. Your defense is knowing you are the tank if you leave the whole party will suffer and possibly have to disband the instance. So because one person said something you just screwed the whole party over possibly by leaving. Dungeon instances last what may 30 minutes tops, 40 if its going bad, but people would possibly vote abandon by then anyways. Either ignore it or turn off the chat log. Part of being a tank is you need to be above petty rhetoric, you chose to be a tank knowing you may encounter those who do not approve of you, can't please them all. I'm not going to screw over an entire party for one loud mouth, and using the "hold a group hostage" attitude is just as bad as the guy mouthing off, if not worse as now your decision will effect the whole group.

[dekal]

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Sadly it is not just one person.if it is just one I don't care, but prince charming wanna go out and help the princess and start talking shit. I'm sorry but it is now two against one and the muted person don't care so it is the party s fault.

Just cuz I m a tank it doesn't mean I automatically put myself to tolerate that behavior. Does it mean that a person that goes to df ad a healer needs to be sweet and a saint cuz it s what a healer personality needs or a DPS needs to follow the tank as their general cuz they r just soldiers.

[Eye_Gore]

Just cuz I m a tank it doesn't mean I automatically put myself to tolerate that behavior.

The tank by many is considered the unofficial "leader" of the group in a run. Tolerate it, maybe, put yourself above it, definitely. There needs to be someone "in charge" without leadership its chaos. Running off is not the solution, now the person you just ran from "won" and now they are going to just keep on thinking they can get away with it. Most probably won't stop, people are just a-holes, its trait. But there could be that one person that starts giving someone crap and they don't leave proving to that person their mouth is not accomplishing anything and just give up on it and realize mouthing off is just futile. But thats just me.

I guess I look at my role differently and try to make it fun for everyone even if there's a loudmouth in the group. Sometimes the reverse psychology works, just agree with them and sometimes they shut up because now they don't know what to say or do. Some people can easily be manipulated. Jedi mind tricks work only on the weak minded fools, but that's usually who's mouthing off anyways.

[Oblitae]

OP looks at the afk tanks and healers like "gosh, look at him, not doing ANYTHING, when he could be helping ME AND MY NEEDS"

[dekal]

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The problem with that is that you are connecting the tank role to the parental role or a worker in a company. If I am in a mood I will do so, but this is just a game that I will play and if I am not in the mood and I just want to play, i won't put myself in that situation. I am sorry, but if that were the case raids should be only be leaded by tanks but that is not always the case. Guild members should do and hear what their guildmaster /FC leaders/ must say, but in the game that is not how it works.

I'm playing a game to have fun. I am not playing a game to work. It is fun for you, have fun working. If thy were friends or a ppl I decide to put up with like raid groups, I must do so otherwise I dont

Sadly I can't make another post, but as I said in my previous reply. If it is one person I dont care. I just move on and try to finish it asap. I replied to you when u were coming out and defending the whole party. My reaction is to the party attitude.you need to check what I said.

A friend told me, yesterday, her experience. A tank in bismarch storyline gave instructions and was telling step by step what to do to everybody, but after 3 wipes he left cuz when he was asking who didn't do what they needed and they started to call him dick. My friend is a DPS and she was sad that the tank left cuz of most of the ppl behavior. They wiped 4-5 times after the first three wipes.

Funny thing is that they were asking each other what was what the previous tank told them what to do. Ppl just overreact and let their emotions take over them and insult other ppl that were trying to help them.

[Eye_Gore]

The problem with that is that you are connecting the tank role to the parental role or a worker in a company. I am not playing a game to work. It is fun for you, have fun working.

Far from what I believe. Of course its a game and all about fun or at least it should be. I guess I just see it as, when I do party content its not all about me. Sure its my game and I can play how I want is the usual go to comment. There are 3 other people, or 7 in my party, we depend on each other to do our jobs make the instance go as fast, smooth, fun as possible. My original comment was just about 1 person being a donkey and that I won't just leave using my role as some type of extortion tool that will effect the whole party, people are easily ignored.

[Esp]

As someone who tanks regularly in the DF for daily roulettes and such, it isn't all that bad. Sometimes you get those really oddball folks that do the weirdest things, like attempting to pull for you, ignoring boss mechanics just to see those higher numbers in their parsers, or the new ones I have been seeing lately, which are those that, no matter how I position mobs, want to stand in front of said group, getting themselves cleaved in the process.

I am not the best tank, nor do I don't think I am a bad one either (least I hope not. Lol), and it isn't always a cesspool of fail and death EVERYTIME you queue up. There have been some interesting folks that you run into, and it's always cool to run into a fellow player on your server that's not only good, but fun just to chat with. It sucks to meet up with some of these people cross server, but can't friend them.

I have been yelled at as a tank, and it's usually cause I either pulled too big of a group or cause I have pulled a set of mobs that just add way too much damage on top of whatever it is I already have. That's about it. All of that is on me as its things I can control. I am always open for tips and criticism, it's what helps you get better, least in my mind.

Tanks need to have thicker skin than most others, simple because your mistakes are much more visible than say...the DPS that is only auto attacking or the healer that's casting heals, and only heals. So long as I can get folks thru a dungeon safely, it's a job well done.

Like I said, there are some loudmouths out there, but so long as your doing your job, they'll have no reason to come at you. I usually just let the two members at work settle their issue by themselves. Hell, I'll still pull as the two are shouting at each other. Less typing, more pew pew! xD

[Blissa]

This thread is 14 pages long and I am just going to throw my $0.02 in. 99.99% of the DF groups I get don't say anything in party chat and if they say anything its "hi" or "hello". And we always finish the DF in 30~40m and everyone leaves happy.

P.S. I strictly run DF for my EOS unless a FC member sends me a tell for help. Which is almost never!

[Xanikk999]

I stopped leveling my DRK at 50. I do so little damage it makes soloing take an eternity on heavensward mobs compared to my dragoon when she was lvl 50. It's quite unsatisying.